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And how much is it society having conditioned women into "oh I don't know anything about that" when it comes to anything technical, including home repairs and such so they don't even try to pay attention? Because I've encountered women of all ages who are impressed to hear a woman could do anything considered a man's job traditionally. It's a sort of learned helplessness to the point some think they need a man's help to put together IKEA furniture. Not because they're incapable of doing it but because they've been taught that they're incapable of doing it.
My mom is the same. "I need a man to do this!"
Well, damn. I had no idea fixing my own appliances, doing home maintenance, and making repairs meant I was a man! It's a good thing my partner is bisexual.
It was incredibly frustrating because I would try to get included on these things as a kid but I would be turned away. I had to figure most of it out myself. (Thank you, internet.)
Gender stereotyping is a vicious cycle (multiple cycles even) and definitelly goes through both genders.
Mind you, in my experience it does have some cultural component to how far it goes, but even in the most gender-egalitarian country I lived in (The Netherlands) there were still plenty such expectations and, for example, before the remote working era the percentage of couples there with a huisman (the male version of housewife) was only 18%.
To be clear, she doesn't need to be the technical one to be the one in charge of the decisions.