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Ok, hear me out. I learned recently that my girlfriend has had two exes with very authoritarian leaning views- both highly narcissistic themselves and both had "surprisingly small members."

I also learned that people assume I'm gay because of effeminate mannerisms. I never bothered to pay much attention to it because people can't read minds. Further, I have little concern about how large I am.

But it occurred to me that authoritarians try to control other people to extreme degrees, and dictate what roles men and women have in society, and interestingly, the roles men do are things that make them look "powerful" or "strong" or just... "big."

The ven diagram of authoritarian views, narcissism, lifted trucks, and demented opinions of masculinity is a circle. I also learned that those exes were HIGHLY sensitive about their size. I think the circle includes another anxiety as well.

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[–] unitedwithme@lemmy.today 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I grew up with sisters, so I feel I've gotten to know women better from a non-intimate means more so than my friends who only had brothers or only childs. It's given me an advantage in confidence and being outgoing without being arrogant (hopefully not, anyway).

[–] peopleproblems@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I still don't know where I picked those mannerisms up. I was in theatre, arts, music a lot as a kid?

But Ill back you up on that observation - women always comment that they feel safe around me. Which... is a wild thing to hear.