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Managing bully at kindergarten (lemmy.world)
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My child is being punched at kindergarten by a girl who also continually does things to him. For example, putting soap on his chair, messing with his outdoor clothes, etc.

The teachers know and have talked to the girl's parents, but the behavior continues. My child is scared to go and cries about it sometimes. I'm not entirely sure how to handle it, because that's the teachers job and I'm not there to help or see it.

Eventually, I'm considering involving the police, but that seems pretty last resort.

Any suggestions?

Edit

The director and teachers are all aware of the issues

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

And the teachers need to do something about that. Teaching this little boy to hit back when he's scared isn't going to solve the problem you think it is. It's going to cause more problems for that boy in his life.

[–] Triumph@fedia.io 4 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Right now he's being taught that hitting kids is okay because someone is hitting him and nothing is being done about it.

You're right. He should just tell her that it makes him feel bad when she does that. That'll work.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

The adults need to take more action.

It probably would work because small children are incredibly empathetic when you communicate effectively. They understand boo-boos and that they don’t like to be hit, so they shouldn’t hit. It takes patience and consistency. Something that violent people don’t have much practice in.

[–] Triumph@fedia.io 3 points 6 hours ago

Patience and consistency and getting hit all the time while you wait.