Parenting

I pretty much only use cash for buying things on FB marketplace, so the idea of giving my kids cash to teach them about responsible spending and value etc seems antiquated. But giving them a debit card seems too abstract. What are you all doing?

cross-posted from: https://programming.dev/post/21039964

Does anybody here have any experience with the T-Mobile syncup watch 2? Any dos/donts/tips/tricks/lessons learned with regards to kids smartwatches? Please share your thoughts.

Nothing in my life has prepared me to answer that question, let alone to a 5-year-old.

I was fixing some toys of my 5 year old and he asked me if he could watch the glue dry... I told him "son, that's like watching grass grow 😒"... his reaction, "really 😱... can I go in the backyard?", me "yeah, sure, I guess 🤦 😂".

He's still there... sitting on the ground, watching... asking every 2 minutes if the grass is any taller 🤣.

I spend so much effort trying to distract my kid from just asking to watch TV, then as soon as I get some time to myself it's straight onto the TV or video games (or phone). Maybe I need to practice on myself as well?

Are your schools doing anything beyond pizza? Once a month, once a week?

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/29812202

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We're planning to get the kiddo a puppy for Christmas and while reading Sterling, the Best ~~Fork~~ Dog Ever it occurred to me that I could blend in bits of wisdom about caring for a dog (no, puppies do NOT go in the dishwasher).

Are there any other Pre-K level books that could be a fun bed time story while also driving home that doggies will drink water when they want, you don't have to force them to drink?

My LO turned 2 in May. She’s been peeing on the potty since she was 18 months old (and started having accidents in the tub). We started potty training in earnest in June. We’re now in October and not doing much better. We have very little issues with getting her to go. She will pee on the potty almost every time we suggest it. But she will not hold it and she will not tell us when she needs to go. Making it through the day with no accidents requires us to make her stop every hour and go. She knows all the mantras and will tell you the right thing every time you talk to her. But she isn’t putting it to practice. We’ve tried stickers, hand stamps, screen time, juice, stickers in the potty that show dinosaurs when she pees on them. She likes all of these things and is excited for them. But she will not go of her own accord. The thing is, I know she can hold it. She'll hold it for hours in the car or when we’re out and about in public. She doesn’t fear the potty (sometimes after pooping in her pull-ups it’s sensitive and she’s afraid to pee for a time or two, but gets over it quickly). We’ve done underwear, pull-ups, no pants, leaving the door open and lights on, and us announcing loudly when we need to go to model. Is it just a waiting game? Eventually she’ll understand her body better? I’m a little apprehensive because the next room at daycare will send your child home if they have 2 accidents in a day. So we’ve got about six months to make some drastic improvements. We’ve done books and songs and get super excited when she goes. I’ve tried to make it a positive experience for her. And that’s just pee. The only way she will poop on the potty is if we catch her in the act (usually after not going for a day or two) and run her to the potty. Most weekends she’ll go both days without pooping and then go first thing at daycare in her pull-up. Is there anything I’m missing? Anything I haven’t tried? I would be fine with the occasional accident because she forgot to go while playing, but right now she will only tell us after she has gone in her pants and will only go potty if we remind her.

Them: Knock knock!

Me: Who's there?

Them: Unicorn.

Me: Unicorn who?

Them: Unicorn. Unicorn. Stop saying unicorn.

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We got an old Bob 3 wheel stroller from a family friend. Frame is a bit rusted and it's been thru some stuff, but it has been perfectly functional for us for the last 3 years. However, just recently, after taking it out of the car, one of the rear wheels fell off. Turns out one of the wheel release latches was completely loose and busted.
I was hoping there was some hacky ability to repair it - rather than throwing it out - envisioning grey market supplies or 3d printer parts or etc.
Instead, I found a website that sells official Bob parts and a replacement rear latch assembly and a video on how to install.

Less than 15 bucks later, (including shipping and tax) I now again have a perfectly functional stroller.

I know these strollers are pricey - but that really makes a difference in willingness to recommend these strollers in the future.

Also, FYI, if you're in need of a stroller wagon - the 3 seater Bob one is a good choice.

The Daily: The Parents Aren't Alright - Link

My crummy tl;dr - Intensive parenting and social media parenting shit making us feel guilty for everything. Previous generations parenting was going about life with the kid doing whatever on their own. Now we are on the floor with them always in their business thinking and preparing ten steps ahead

I'm curious what parents of kids 5+ think of this. At one point in the podcast, someone says, "Bigger kids, bigger problems is what they say. It becomes less physically demanding, but it’s more mentally demanding."

My kids are 4 and under, so I'm definitely in a phase where they are physically demanding.

A friend of mine put this together. I thought it was a neat tool for parents so I decided to share.

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I have kids ages 4-7 and they quite like watching a little snippet of something while they brush their teeth.

One thing they have been into recently is these stop motion videos on youtube on a channel called Peapea. However, it's obvious that M&Ms and Coke give them lots of money because it's all you see in many of the videos. But these are good videos, as the kids like them and while the full youtube videos are 30 mins long, within this there are lots of shorts only a few minutes long each. Perfect for bushing teeth. Also a bonus is those videos don't rely on sound, so they can watch and understand it without telling each other to brush queiter.

Does anyone have suggestions for anything similar that isn't plastered with Cocacola and is suitable for the 4-7 age range?

Addressing the Impact of Parenting Styles on Family Dynamics: A Psychological Perspective

Introduction

Parenting is a multifaceted and dynamic role that significantly influences the psychological development and emotional well-being of children. This paper aims to explore the critical impact of parenting styles on familial relationships, emphasizing the profound effects of parental failures and the importance of self-awareness and empathy in fostering healthier relationships. Additionally, the paper will examine how ineffective parenting can contribute to the development of common mental illnesses.

Historical Context and Parenting Norms

Parenting practices are deeply influenced by the cultural and historical context in which they are situated. Previous generations often adhered to norms that are now considered outdated or inappropriate. Understanding this historical perspective is essential to contextualize parental behaviors; however, it does not mitigate the consequences of such behaviors on their children. Despite the evolving understanding of effective parenting practices, many individuals raised in earlier eras may continue to exhibit behaviors that contribute to familial dysfunction.

The Psychological Impact of Parental Failures

The psychological ramifications of ineffective or harmful parenting can be profound and long-lasting. Children exposed to maladaptive parenting styles often grapple with emotional and psychological issues that persist into adulthood. Such issues may include difficulties in forming secure relationships, low self-esteem, and challenges in emotional regulation. In many cases, these issues require extensive therapeutic intervention to address and resolve.

Common Mental Illnesses and Their Connection to Parental Failures

1. Depression: Children who experience neglect, emotional unavailability, or constant criticism from their parents are at a higher risk of developing depression. The lack of emotional support and validation can lead to feelings of worthlessness and persistent sadness.
2. Anxiety Disorders: Inconsistent or harsh parenting practices can contribute to the development of anxiety disorders. Children may experience heightened levels of fear and worry, often rooted in the unpredictability of parental responses or excessive control and rigidity.
3. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Exposure to trauma, including physical or emotional abuse, can lead to PTSD. The symptoms may include flashbacks, severe anxiety, and emotional numbing, significantly impacting daily functioning and relationships.
4. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): BPD can develop from environments characterized by unstable or invalidating parental relationships. Individuals with BPD often struggle with intense emotions, unstable self-image, and difficulties in maintaining stable relationships.
5. Attachment Disorders: Early experiences with neglect or inconsistent caregiving can result in attachment disorders. These disorders are characterized by difficulties in forming secure and healthy emotional bonds with others, impacting interpersonal relationships throughout life.
6. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD): The presence of overly controlling or perfectionistic parenting styles can contribute to the development of OCD. Children may internalize these expectations, leading to compulsive behaviors and obsessive thoughts as a means of coping.
7. Eating Disorders: Parents who emphasize appearance and control over food intake can inadvertently contribute to the development of eating disorders. An unhealthy focus on weight and body image can lead to disorders such as anorexia nervosa or bulimia.
8. Substance Use Disorders: Dysfunctional family environments, including parental neglect or abuse, can increase the risk of substance use disorders. Individuals may turn to substances as a means of coping with unresolved emotional pain and trauma.
9. Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD): Although ADHD has a strong biological component, parenting practices can exacerbate symptoms. Inconsistent discipline and lack of structure can contribute to difficulties with attention and impulse control.
10. Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD): While ASD is a neurodevelopment disorder with a strong genetic basis, parental responses and attitudes can influence how symptoms are managed and how children with ASD navigate social interactions.

Personal Reflection and Family Dynamics

In evaluating the impact of parental failures, it is crucial to acknowledge both the personal and relational dimensions. While it is possible to recognize that parental behaviors stem from a different era, it is equally important to address the tangible effects these behaviors have on family dynamics. For instance, children who experience parental neglect or emotional unavailability may develop lasting psychological scars, which can affect their interactions with other family members and their overall emotional health.

The Role of Empathy and Self-Awareness in Change

Self-awareness and empathy are critical components in the process of personal growth and change. Parents who acknowledge the impact of their actions on their children and strive to understand their experiences can initiate meaningful change in their relationships. Developing a sense of empathy involves recognizing the emotional and psychological needs of others and making a concerted effort to address these needs constructively.

Pathways to Reparation and Improvement

Addressing the harm caused by ineffective parenting requires a proactive approach. This includes acknowledging past mistakes, seeking therapeutic support, and making genuine efforts to alter maladaptive behaviors. While the process of change is challenging, it is essential for repairing relationships and fostering healthier family dynamics. Individuals must confront their actions with honesty and humility to facilitate healing and growth.

Conclusion

The impact of parenting on family dynamics is profound and far-reaching. Understanding the historical context of parenting practices provides valuable insight, but it does not excuse the psychological harm inflicted. Developing empathy and self-awareness are crucial for making amends and fostering healthier relationships. By confronting these issues with sincerity and commitment, individuals can pave the way for meaningful change and repair the damage done.

I’d like to share my second article with you, which examines the significant impact of personal appearance on family dynamics and psychological development. While the focus extends beyond parenting, it addresses how societal perceptions, such as those related to makeup, can affect familial relationships and interactions. For instance, the article discusses how some family members may wrongly equate appearance with potential danger. I hope you find the insights provided both enlightening and relevant.

The Misconception of Appearance as a Reflection of Character: A Clinical Perspective

In the realm of psychological and therapeutic work, we often encounter deeply ingrained societal beliefs that link outward appearance to moral character or potential harm. This assumption—that how someone presents themselves can somehow be equated with their intentions, capabilities, or threat to others—is a misconception rooted in cultural norms and biases rather than reality. The notion that wearing makeup or dressing in nontraditional ways signifies something morally or ethically negative not only lacks evidence but perpetuates harmful stereotypes.

The Evolution of Gender Norms and Social Conditioning

Historically, societal standards for gender presentation have fluctuated. For example, in the 18th century, it was common for men to wear makeup, powdered wigs, and elaborate clothing. The color pink, now often considered "feminine," was once associated with masculinity and strength, while blue was considered delicate and appropriate for women. These shifts highlight the arbitrary nature of social norms and the fact that what is deemed "appropriate" is not fixed but culturally and temporally contingent.

When we evaluate individuals based on their adherence to these socially constructed norms, we’re not assessing their character, values, or intentions. Instead, we are reinforcing narrow, historically inconsistent frameworks. In clinical terms, this is a form of cognitive bias—specifically, "the halo effect"—wherein judgments about one aspect of a person (in this case, their appearance) unjustifiably influence our perception of their overall character.

The Psychological Impact of Gender Norms From a therapeutic perspective, rigid adherence to societal norms around appearance and gender expression can have harmful psychological effects—both for those who feel confined by these expectations and for those who use them as criteria to evaluate others. Individuals who do not conform to traditional gender norms, for instance, may face prejudice, exclusion, or even accusations of potential harm simply because they challenge outdated stereotypes.

This is especially concerning in the context of family dynamics, where support, understanding, and acceptance are critical for healthy relationships. When someone expresses themselves through makeup or nontraditional clothing, this does not signify a departure from their core identity or moral integrity. Rather, it reflects an alignment with their authentic self. Rejecting or distancing oneself from a family member because of their appearance can lead to emotional distress, familial estrangement, and unnecessary conflict. From a therapeutic standpoint, this represents a missed opportunity for empathy and connection, as the focus is mistakenly placed on external factors rather than internal qualities or intentions.

Challenging the Link Between Appearance and Behaviour

One common fear associated with nonconformity in appearance is the idea that it somehow increases the risk of harm—particularly to children or vulnerable individuals. Yet, this fear is unsupported by research. There is no empirical evidence to suggest that wearing makeup, dressing outside of traditional gender norms, or expressing oneself through alternative fashion choices correlates with inappropriate or harmful behavior.

In fact, criminal psychology and research into deviant behavior show that external appearance is not a reliable indicator of potential for harm. Predatory behavior, for example, is more closely linked with factors like manipulation, lack of empathy, and antisocial personality traits—none of which are revealed by clothing or makeup choices. To draw a connection between someone’s outward expression and their likelihood to harm others is not only misguided but potentially damaging to relationships.

Psychological Flexibility and the Importance of Acceptance

From a therapeutic lens, psychological flexibility—the ability to adapt one's thinking and behavior in response to changing circumstances—is a crucial aspect of mental well-being. In this case, accepting a family member’s evolving sense of self-expression, rather than adhering to rigid and potentially harmful gender norms, can lead to healthier, more accepting relationships. Therapy encourages us to recognize the difference between deeply held beliefs and the actual evidence of harm.

Rejecting someone based on appearance alone reduces the opportunity to engage with them on a deeper level, to understand their values, emotions, and aspirations. This kind of rejection may stem from fear—often a fear rooted in cultural conditioning—but when we explore these fears in therapy, we usually find they are unfounded or based on misconceptions.

The Role of Identity and Self-Expression in Mental Health

Self-expression is a fundamental component of personal identity. From a developmental perspective, identity formation is a key psychological task that individuals engage with throughout their lives. The ability to express oneself authentically is critical for mental health, as it fosters self-acceptance, self-esteem, and resilience. Limiting someone’s ability to do so—whether through judgment, exclusion, or fear—can lead to emotional harm, including anxiety, depression, and a diminished sense of self-worth.

Conversely, allowing individuals the space to explore and express their identity—whether through makeup, fashion, or other means—can be an empowering and healing experience. This aligns with therapeutic goals of promoting self-compassion and authentic living, rather than living under the constraints of social conformity.

Conclusion: Breaking Free from Outdated Beliefs

To equate makeup, clothing choices, or nontraditional gender presentation with moral failing or potential harm is to fall into the trap of conflating appearance with behavior. As research and clinical experience have shown, these surface-level attributes do not provide insight into someone’s character or intent. Judgments based on appearance are reflective of social and cultural conditioning, not of empirical truths.

The path forward, both in individual relationships and in broader societal discourse, is one of understanding and flexibility. Rather than clinging to outdated norms, we must embrace a more nuanced and compassionate view of self-expression—one that recognizes the difference between how someone looks and who they truly are.

**_I would like to address one final point. I understand that some of the perspectives shared in these articles may be challenging or uncomfortable for some parents. However, I firmly believe in the importance of equitable access to knowledge and its role in fostering optimal development for our children.

For context, I have studied Psychology and Developmental Studies at Yale and am currently a young parent at 20. My aim is to contribute to the ongoing dialogue about effective parenting and psychological well-being. Thank you for considering these insights._**