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Fellow auties, which do you find is a better and healthier fit for you: dating another autistic person or an NT? (lemmy.world)
submitted 6 months ago by BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world to c/autism@lemmy.world
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I'm really confused about this. On one hand (โœ‹), I can see how dating an autistic person would be amazing because we would just understand each other on another level. We would get each other's emotions, meltdowns, joy, special interests, hyperfocus, communication style, etc. Also, there's no NT partner to miss whatever NT thing we don't bring to the relationship.

On the other hand (๐Ÿคš), we definitely have some deficiencies that NTs don't. Having an NT can help us regulate, keep us updated on social matters that we completely miss, take care of a baby that's wailing crying, and other strengths that we just don't have, while at the same time, we contribute with our own strengths that they don't have.

NTs, please feel free to contribute! Your opinion and experiences are important too ๐Ÿ™‚

I'd love to see a discussion on this topic. So what do you think?

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[โ€“] Steamymoomilk@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Dang your dating, im too socially aqward too. I had a chat with a nice girl my age at the store the other day and gave her my number. And i honestly felt like i stood out like a sore thumb. I ended the interation with giving her my phone number. She didnt message me for 2 days and i felt like i did a shit job at talking to her. She eventually did and we talked, she got a bf :/. I am ND high fuctioning btw and im still happy to have her as a freind.

How do you guys get the courage to talk to people, im so aqward and i feel like i suck at talking to people i dont know.

Aswell as i have thought about if a ND would be good to have as a partner. I personally think that would work out great (assuming shes not too crazy) because. I dont mean this in the wrong way, but alot NT dont understand what its like to be ND and the challages that come with that.

[โ€“] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I'm not dating anything. I was fantasizing about it and thought that if maybe an opportunity came along, I could engage or disengage...or I don't know. I'm just trying to make a game plan here. This loneliness crap is getting old.

[โ€“] Steamymoomilk@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 months ago

You and me same brother