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submitted 2 years ago by sjh@sh.itjust.works to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

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I took my girlfriend and friend out to dinner.

Friend says, "I love living with someone."

Turning to my girlfriend, she asks, "how do you feel?"

My girlfriend looks at me and then replies, "it's....fine."

What do you feel is an appropriate response?

I sat down with her later and tried to talk about it, but she said she was joking. I just don't get the joke.

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[–] cabbagee@sopuli.xyz 6 points 2 years ago

That specific instance sounds like a non-event.

There's two things going on here that you should have a conversation with your girlfriend about.

This event is really bothering you. You should dig a bit to find the source of this anxiety. Maybe you have general anxiety and need to take steps to manage it. Maybe you have insecurities about your relationship that you need to address with your gf.
Whatever the status is for #1, relationship jokes hit too close to home for you right now. It's ok to ask your gf to try to refrain from these kind of jokes while you work on the source of your anxiety. There's times when I've had to ask my SO the same. Sometimes it's because the joke itself is insensitive or comes from a bad place, but sometimes it's because I'm not in the right place for that joke myself. The main thing is work on the source but it's ok to ask for help in the meantime.