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I didn't mention that the entire meetup was to cook together, everyone got to choose what we cooked, and everything I cooked was for them. They were going to college and most mentioned needing to learn, so I thought I'd show them the basics.
I ended up cooking everything myself alone. It felt disrespectful because they agreed to help and they didn't bother to include me in their conversation away in the living room.
they were probably just there for the free food
And/or the socialization. Maybe the intention to listen and learn was there, but overcome by the excitement of socializing with friendly people.
in my experience if you want to cook and have a gathering, do a BBQ outside.
have some drinks and chat it up.
if you have a relatively small kitchen, people will often feel trapped or obliged to help and naturally migrate to the living room to sit.
I'm pretty darn explicit when I invite a person over to help with beer what it will entail; lots of cleaning, wear comfy clothes that can get wet and dirty, there will be heat and weird smells, and a small amount of physical labor. Still want to come? Cool. If not? Swing by in 4-6 weeks to enjoy a beer with me after it's fermented and carbonated.
And I never invite more than one, maybe two people. Anymore than that and folks are just standing around, unable to participate. If you have a genuine interest in teaching on your end, and a genuine interest to learn from a friend or two, I would recommend changing your approach to how you plan these events and try again. It sounds fun but one-teaching-a-group sounds like very challenging logistics.