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A first date was already not going well, and I said I needed to go. He decided that wasn't happening. Ended up having to run away from him, literally, through a park area while wearing heels to reach my car. It was daytime and many people saw what was happening, but no one did a thing to help. But I'm sure if it hadn't been daytime, he wouldn't have "let me" get away after catching me. There were just too many eyes on him.
I wore comfortable shoes I can run in to all first dates after that.
This absolutely breaks my heart to read. Like I as a man will probably never relate to this struggle or be able to understand it on a personal level but probably all of my woman friends would read this and either think, "hey, that's good advice" or "yup I already do that as well as XYZ to stay safe"
Like fuck. How is it that I put exactly zero effort into not being a creepy rapey predator, and I'm not chasing women to their cars, yet at the same time every woman that I know has a story at least somewhat similar? Why does it feel almost inherently true that there will always be a subset of shitty guys that view women as their prey/right/property/conquest?
What a shit world we're living in.
I'm sorry for rambling and I'm sorry that this is something you have to live with.