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[–] Allero@lemmy.today 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

Disagree, in the world full of all sorts of sexual depictions this just feels like you've accidentally switched to porn - something you're currently not intended to do and if you would, you'd look for it directly.

It's awkward, unnecessary and usually excessively artsy to be taken seriously, and actors might not be the kind of people you'd love to see sex scenes with.

While I appreciate and share your look at sex as a continuation and natural part of romance, I think it is necessary to show the main part - love, devotion, trust, butterflies in the stomach - and the rest can be figured out.

Something like "they lived happily ever after"

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah except people in relationships have sex.
Like it just is a thing that people do for reasons of intimacy or power or excitement. There are lots of excuses for sex and just reducing life to
"And they lived happily ever after and maybe had sex at some point
Isn't even the kind of stories I would want to read or watch.

In the real world people have sex and if I want stories to feel real they are gonna do that if it feels right. Doesn't mean it needs to be gratuitous but hiding it feels Puritan and not true to reality either.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

People in relationships also take a shit etc. Doesn't mean we have to demonstrate it for further engagement.

But I guess that's a matter of preference anyway. Let's just agree that there is no single best option.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol -1 points 3 weeks ago

Sex should not be a myth that people are scared of and hiding it behind the extra that happens after true love does no help for the people who are now going to be afraid or perfectionists about a normal human experience.

I don't like bad writing as a sell point but sex in stories is not that most of the time. The things trying to sell themselves on shock will turn to other aspects just fine. Look at the romance movie that ended with 9/11 instead of a sex scene for that.

I also think bathroom use can absolutely be included in a story if it works and is important to the story which sex as an intimate act with multiple characters usually is.

I just don't think pushing a side of less sex should be talked about is a good side to suggest as equally valid as it does not help anyone but those that want it to be a controlling force and act.

[–] iopq@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

If the plot is they slept with one another and now it's awkward, it is better to at least show them passionately kissing the night before to set the stage for awkwardness later on