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Pssshhhhh, if you think lack of cooking is going to affect my dating life, don't worry. I've yet to find the type of woman who's personality type would mesh well with mine.
So, I can't remember the last time I had a date, but I do remember always being disappointed. The VAST majority of women look down on you if you tell them that you'll never have a drivers liscense (me, not her), that you don't forsee yourself traveling ever, that you don't like music, and the whole concept of marriage seems like a financial scam from start until either death or divorce.
If I were to date someone long term, I'd need them to be my speed by nature. Them being my speed has to be something that is within their personality, not me trying to get them to slow down.
My idea of a fun Friday night is to stay in, avoid the bars, and maybe watch a dvd. Most women want to go out, go to clubs, or go on a road trip somewhere. I don't even want to leave my recliner. Although if I was with someone I'd switch to the couch.
But that person doesn't exist.
From one single guy to another.....jeez, man.
Go live in a city??? Most do not give a shit.
Wow, no wonder they ran. You start off by telling them the things you don't like?
And I can't tell if you think it's a scam because marriage costs more (it's not) or you're implying future partners will be leeches (major red flag)
Let me stop you right there, bud - this is the line that made me comment. You can't pull the "most women want" card when you're so clearly out of touch. MOST women don't want any one thing. They are not a monolith.
What you enjoy doing is not as unique as you think it is. I mean that as a positive - not an insult.
Do you really, honestly, genuinely, no-foolin believe that men have the monopoly on wanting a "boring" life? Is it so unfathomable that a woman would prefer chill Friday evenings?
Your problem (in your attitude, not your relationship status) is that you're an introvert trying to find another introvert. Your dream girl is at home on Friday night, too, not meeting anyone either.
I totally agree that it's really hard for introverts to link up because we're all on our own little bubbles. We're not going to big social events every weekend and we're less likely to pursue possible interests. And to add to that, there's fewer introverts in general which slims down the dating pool a lot. You do have to work harder to find "the one" but your requirements don't slim it down by THAT much.
I mean none of this disparagingly but you are wrong about the existence of the partner you're describing so please, from one single guy to another, lose the defeatist attitude.
I live in a city. Peoples faces change when you tell them you don't drive. To them it says that either you're an alcoholic whose liscense is expired, or you can't afford a car.
Who ran? They never existed.
Not just women. Men too. But I'm not going to date a male.
It's not about being anti-social. Bring over 1000 people. It's fine, as long as they're inside my home, and not out there in the world.
That being said, my home doesn't have room for 1000 people. So realistically maybe 4 people. It's not about the socialisation. It's about the environment and location.
Also, I don't have a dream girl. I find the concept repulsing. I would rather tell a woman everything that most women find to be deal breakers about me, then she tells me all of the things that are deal breakers about her. We discuss if those things are important to the other.
Such as, I will never ever ever ever drive a car. If that's a deal breaker for her, why bother with going on a date?
However, I don't enjoy traveling. I don't forsee myself going to concerts, or other cities. Or even the coffee shop she just heard about in some magazine. But I'm not deadset against it. If it was important to her that we go to rome for 5 days, fine. We'll go to rome. It's not against any core belief of mine.
Whereas if she won't date someone who doesn't drive, we don't need to talk.
And your entire perspective seems to come from the idea that I'm some introvert who keeps going on dates and getting rejected.
Whereas I'm not an introvert at all. I WANT someone I can relate to. In my younger days, people were always surprised because online I'd meet someone new, talk their head off in text form, with 100 new messages a minute, and then they'd meet me. They were expecting someone who can't shut up. And I'd barely say two words, because I observe more than I talk. I just can't observe through text without talking.
proceeds to list paragraphs of demands that a woman must meet to be considered.
Good luck with all that man, I hope you can look back at this comment one day and realize how unbelievably picky you are. A partner isn't a pokemon, they're allowed to have a life while still loving and sharing a home with you.