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It took me 30 years to learn I've CPTSD.
Same.
I guess the 'lesson' would be:
If you can do a thought exercise about a or multiple personal relationships you have with adults, and you conclude that a blatant, repeated and normalized double standard exists where if you treated these persons they way they treat you, for just one day or one week, and you know they would become enraged, furious and indignant, that their world would collapse around them without you bearing emotional / physical / mental / financial / planning responsibilities or tasks for them...
Run. Leave. Block. Cut off all contact.
Such people cannot be changed, and your life will be better without them.
What self-care have you learned thar you can briefly share?
What you think is characteristics of a personality, might be symptoms of abuse.
Did you learn how you got that?
Yes
But what concrete self-care tips have you derived from that?
Fake it till you make it is a sucessfull postponement to existential questions.
Isnt that problematic for your authenticity tho?
That's a later problem
No one is genuinely authentic. Maybe a few people who are incapable of doing otherwise due to issues.
Sometimes I'm not even authentic to myself. I can be different people from one day to the next. Generally it's an attempt to be better followed by reversion to mean, but sometimes not.