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[–] Atlas_@lemmy.world 64 points 1 month ago (2 children)

First, 100% a red flag. Even if they wanted to give some sort of "I trust you with my life" sort of video, there's a bunch of better ways to do it. Going for a racist rant makes me think that they're a racist.

Secondly, this is deeply submissive - they're giving you the power to ruin their life. If you want to do that sort of stuff as a couple you should really talk about it first and be on board with receiving that sort of power and responsibility. Entirely possible+reasonable for the receiver to find this shitty because they don't want to make a choice like this, especially if these are truly held beliefs.

The healthy response to this is to send them to a therapist. And definitely dump them if they're actually racist.

[–] Clent@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I don't see how someone could do a racist rant and not be racist. That it is a rant is an important word here.

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Have you never heard of acting?

[–] Clent@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Where's the leverage if it's a performance?

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I can (and have, many times) dropped a hard-r for comedic effect, even around my black friends, as they have the context to know that I'm not actually the kind of person to use that word normally

If I was recorded and shared to the internet doing so free of context, I would be labelled as a racist shithead immediately and forever

[–] Clent@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Is that the situation here? It is not.

Everyone wanting to give the benefit of the doubt here gives racists room to exist.

That's how I read it, yes. But we obviously don't have enough context to say whether the GF is actually racist or just pretending to be as a crazy trust exercise. I'm taking it as a crazy trust exercise because that's the only way this could fit any definition of "romantic."

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You asked, I answered

Don't like the answers, don't ask the questions

[–] Clent@lemmy.world -2 points 1 month ago

At least we've established that you enable racists.

[–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I bet if you tried hard enough you could come up with one

[–] Clent@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think taking any random problem and putting blame on a group of people would be racist. I could spruce it up with the term “nipper” or “kike” and most people would find it racist

I suppose you just don’t find anything racist if you can’t come up with it

[–] Clent@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I supposed you just don't find anything racist

I am arguing the exact opposite.

[–] ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 month ago

You’re saying a non-racist person couldn’t say anything racist

The only way to argue that is if they don’t know what is racist

[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

Not even if you were an actor?