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Having been in a similar situation when I was young, having since worked, professionally, with teenage boys in a very close environment (staff basically lived 24/7 in a group housing situation for a combination of wards of the state/ adjudicated offenders/ "problem" kids, for 4 or 5 days at a stretch), and having to still enforce boundaries with some toxic parents, I have to be real with you...
You are going to have to steel yourself and force yourself to get out of that situation and just live life. It is going to be HARD. You are going to have to set your ego completely aside. You are going to have to tell yourself that you are playing a LONG game and just persist for as long as it takes. You are going to have to abandon EVERYTHING that you assume is what your life is going to be about, and start out into the world like the archetypal "Fool".
Keep firm hold of your values, but prepare yourself to be rid of EVERYTHING else. That might include your dignity, your social position, what others who you care about think about you.
And you are going to have to press your luck. HARD
There is a chance, though, that you might come out on the other side, years from now, able to hold your head high because you have proven yourself, to yourself. That is the only thing that will matter. You just might be able to look back on your life and realize that you performed WAY better than you once thought you would. It will be VERY satisfying, and it will make the tough times seem worth it.
I wish I could offer you more, but the above describes the journey I have found myself to have undertaken, and, as dirt poor as I am, I have good friends, solid relations with select family members, concrete things that I am proud to have accomplished, and an understanding of the world that I remain surprised to have acquired.
It was very, very hard at times. I took some serious risks and managed to choose goals that turned out to be worth it in ways that I could not have imagined.
It is up to you. Your ace in the hole right now is that you are young. Take chances, but try to avoid going against the values that you hold. Regrets are a bitch.
Go for it.