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I have my father's last name and didn't have children to perpetuate our toxic bloodline but my dipshit brother did. My sole purpose was taking me and my little cousin who lived in the same toxic environment I grew up in, but 15 years later and showing her a better way. We are still who we are, but no one knows the others from my family on that side, we don't talk to them. It's her and I starting a new family with my wife and kids and making something better for ourselves and treating each other with love and respect instead of like crabs in a barrel always trying to pull each other down. I kept my last name and we will make it better.
Why punish yourself by not allowing yourself to have a family to attempt to hurt your father? Why not change your name is make sure your family ends the toxicity :)
Didn’t think of it that way. Yeah, you definitely don’t want to pass that on. I hope your family is happy then :)