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I didn't have this life trajectory, but I have another experience and don't really agree with this. My parents have always been loving and supporting of me. They saw me majoring in science and encouraged me. Once or twice my dad told me he thought I'd be a good audio engineer, but I never really took him seriously.
Well I probably wasn't cut out to be a STEM worker, or at least I haven't figured it out yet and I'm getting pretty old. Just working dead end jobs and being too anxious to try for better jobs.
Sometimes I wonder what would have happened if I listened to my dad a little better, or if anyone had been able to tell me while I was struggling in my stem classes, that maybe I was aiming at the wrong thing, and to keep looking...
I'm sorry, but the irony of not becoming an audio engineer because you didn't listen is really something.
Hehe that is pretty funny thanks for that :p
There's no way your dad could have known what was going to happen. There's no way people around you could have known that you were in a career path that wasn't going to work out well for you. Nobody can guarantee the future like that.
The other thing is that even if you're working in STEM, to follow up with your example, there are thousands of different jobs that all feel totally different to people working them. It's quite possible that you could initially hate the field, then make some lateral shift, and find a position that is halfway decent. Here again, nobody knows what's going to be good for you.
If you want responsible career advice, it's quite simple. Because there aren't guarantees, you might want to develop several different skill sets, so that you're in a better position to deal with unknown future changes. If you think you can learn how to do one simple thing and then have 45 years of happiness doing it, flip a coin and hope luck is on your side.
speaking as a parent this is one of my worst fears. I want to help support my kids in whatever drives them. I know though, at some point that my kids will make their own decisions that have their own life changing repercussions. the best I can do is impart my own wisdom on them early to allow them to make better decisions when that time comes.
I'll impart some of my own worldly knowledge on you if you don't mind. You're never too old to do what you want to do. it won't be easy, but nothing that makes your life better ever is. I was in my 30s once I turned my life around. I'll never be where I wanted to be, but I'm a lot further than I would have been had I never tried. find what you're good at and drives you and don't ever be ashamed of wherever that leads you. to thine own self be true.
I'm sorry that you didn't get the support you needed, but as an adult remember, our parents are only human and make mistakes too. this doesn't mean what they did was acceptable, but rather allows you to acknowledge the actions and move on from them.
I accepted my father some years after his death, and have acknowledged my mother's shortcomings. what has driven me to that point is my own failings as a parent. I realized that I was making the same mistakes they were just by trying to not become them. my goal as a parent was literally "don't be like mom or dad". now, my goal is "be the dad my kids need".
They don't always get what they want, but I'm always willing to listen if it's important enough to them. I love my kids, would do anything for them if it's in their self-interest. I hope they look back as adults and realize that so they don't have to waste years on battling the same demons I had.
thanks for sharing.