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I hate to say it, but now isn't the only time it's a problem.
This whole "you just need to practice more CBT skills" has been bullshit for like twenty fucking years or more.
I can "check the facts" all I want, if the facts are that things are irreparably and totally fucked and that this irreparability is hurting me directly I can't "happy thoughts" my fucking way out of it.
I'm really tired of being told "you can't change other people, so you need to work on yourself" when other people are allowed to be giant assholes their whole lives who never have to put one ounce of work into themselves and it's me and everyone else who is a halfway decent person who has to spend their lives fucking working on ourselves.
The system is god damned broken and has been god damned broken when we practically reward the worst of us with never having to try to do better while telling the best of us that we just have to do better.
I'm really, really over it.
Overthrowing capitalism is a pretty effective coping mechanism from what I hear.
Isnt that almost impossible? I wonder how many lotteries you would have to win in a row to be as lucky as you would need to convince billions of people capitalism may be worse than another system and to do something about it
you dont have to convince people based on dry theory. revolution does not necessairily mean a momentary violent insurection that overthrows what was. a revolution can be the process in which you create the structures you wish to see in the future, in the here and now. you then convince people by showing them first hand that it works and that it benefits them.
here is a great video on how to construct the revolution. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9K6ISx8QEQ
it has a bit of a slow start, and feels academic but its very very insightful. absolute recomendation.
Big recommend on that video and Anark's whole channel.
This is a short clip he put out recently that makes a really good case for building the new world by fixing today's problems, which makes life better now, which is something people seem to miss.
Like we're not just rolling the dice that what we do now might pay off for future generations. We're not just "planting trees in whose shade we will never sit", we are planting seeds we can reap soon, because we need to eat, so we're solving that problem.
And satisfyingly, this brings us full-circle to addressing the point of the original post.
I think we just need a bunch of guillotines.
I think some of us could do with both. Too bad the only psych who spoke to the heart of trauma was private. O well