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I would also jump to the first conclusion that OP is oversexualizing stuff, but on the other hand, there are many other ways to give the information which doesn't induce pictures in brains od people who are very visually oriented. "We hope/plan to have kids in the near future/soon/within a year or two".
Same as we don't need to know people have blasting diarrhea, enough to say they have digestive problems or stomach pain.
But how is "we hope to have kids soon" any different to "we're trying for a baby"? Both implies they (are going to) have sex. And both isn't the same as "my husband is gonna cum inside me this weekend and we're thinking brezel dip since we don't enjoy missionary that much I just don't get that stimulated since his penis is on the smaller side but also I should be lying down right? I mean we are usually the doggy type of people but that's just not that good for the sperm to travel up the vag. But with missionary his dick just tends to slip out and if that happens right before orgasm and we lose all the jizz this cycle is gonna be done for. So we're gonna go for some obazda if you know what I'm saying"
I personally already have graphic images when I just hear people talking about their kids. That means these people did it at least the number of times they have children. My mind automatically goes there. But that's my problem, no one is pulling their dick out and no one is telling me anything graphic.
Because "We are trying for a baby" gives the "we fuck right now every moment we can" vibe, while "we hope to have kids soon" gives the "we have sex just like any other couple in the world, we just don't use protection" vibe.
If you are discusted by "we plan to have kids soon" you might aswell be discusted by the fact people have sex in general. In that case you simply have an oversexualized mind and the problem really isn't anymore in what words people use because any words will trigger you. You do notice women walk around with breasts. So discusting.
I don't get the "we fuck all the time" vibe from hearing "we are trying for a baby", but maybe because I've seen the reality of it; most people who are trying for a baby are informed enough to know that you don't need to go wild most of the month, and most people have been together for quite some time and have stressful day to day lives that don't allow (lust, time, and energy wise) for fucking all the time.
Usually "we are trying for a baby" implies they stopped using contraceptives and are tracking the cycle to fuck once or twice within the fertile window. It's not that different from regular sex within a long term relationship. (If trying for a baby makes you go wild and you fuck like bunnies every day for months on end more power to you though!)
But then again I am not disgusted by the idea of people having sex or bodily fluids. If they share TMI I'm usually just like "nice" or "good for you!" and enjoy the fact that they are open enough and we are close enough for me to hear details about their private life.
That being said, why would anyone at work share that they are trying for a baby to begin with? Work environment usually doesn't welcome pregnancy - it implies more sick leave, parental leave, and more emergency days off once the kid is older. Just saying "one day I'd like to start a family" makes you a less attractive person for a position. So I would always imply that I don't want kids, I don't want a family, I don't even like kids and I am infertile.