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You're a gay man with the same level of prudishness that makes conservatives not even want to allow you to be able to hold hands in public with your partner.
Congratulations on the unpopular opinion, but your levels of self-awareness need A LOT of work.
“I put a thick load in my wife last night”
“My husband cums inside me all the time now”
I think these are way worse
they mean the same thing though
Yes, but usually people share this with only close ones and not publicly. I think it is okay to be gross with close people.
OP is definitely a virgin, and very likely an incel. Also a high chance that OP is gay. It's okay, you can come out of the closet.
OP mentions being gay and sexually active in comments from over a day ago. So you're kinda 0 for 3, since I don't think accusing an out gay person of being closeted counts as accurate.
You are definitionally wrong. A graphic description means, "Describing or depicting in vivid and realistic detail." Saying, "We're trying for a baby," would be considered euphemistically sexual at best. A graphically sexual description would be something like, I don't know..."having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her."
You're broken.
Graphic ? meaning you're picturing it mentally ? that's you lacking control over your own brain
I would also jump to the first conclusion that OP is oversexualizing stuff, but on the other hand, there are many other ways to give the information which doesn't induce pictures in brains od people who are very visually oriented. "We hope/plan to have kids in the near future/soon/within a year or two".
Same as we don't need to know people have blasting diarrhea, enough to say they have digestive problems or stomach pain.
But how is "we hope to have kids soon" any different to "we're trying for a baby"? Both implies they (are going to) have sex. And both isn't the same as "my husband is gonna cum inside me this weekend and we're thinking brezel dip since we don't enjoy missionary that much I just don't get that stimulated since his penis is on the smaller side but also I should be lying down right? I mean we are usually the doggy type of people but that's just not that good for the sperm to travel up the vag. But with missionary his dick just tends to slip out and if that happens right before orgasm and we lose all the jizz this cycle is gonna be done for. So we're gonna go for some obazda if you know what I'm saying"
I personally already have graphic images when I just hear people talking about their kids. That means these people did it at least the number of times they have children. My mind automatically goes there. But that's my problem, no one is pulling their dick out and no one is telling me anything graphic.
Because "We are trying for a baby" gives the "we fuck right now every moment we can" vibe, while "we hope to have kids soon" gives the "we have sex just like any other couple in the world, we just don't use protection" vibe.
If you are discusted by "we plan to have kids soon" you might aswell be discusted by the fact people have sex in general. In that case you simply have an oversexualized mind and the problem really isn't anymore in what words people use because any words will trigger you. You do notice women walk around with breasts. So discusting.
I don't get the "we fuck all the time" vibe from hearing "we are trying for a baby", but maybe because I've seen the reality of it; most people who are trying for a baby are informed enough to know that you don't need to go wild most of the month, and most people have been together for quite some time and have stressful day to day lives that don't allow (lust, time, and energy wise) for fucking all the time.
Usually "we are trying for a baby" implies they stopped using contraceptives and are tracking the cycle to fuck once or twice within the fertile window. It's not that different from regular sex within a long term relationship. (If trying for a baby makes you go wild and you fuck like bunnies every day for months on end more power to you though!)
But then again I am not disgusted by the idea of people having sex or bodily fluids. If they share TMI I'm usually just like "nice" or "good for you!" and enjoy the fact that they are open enough and we are close enough for me to hear details about their private life.
That being said, why would anyone at work share that they are trying for a baby to begin with? Work environment usually doesn't welcome pregnancy - it implies more sick leave, parental leave, and more emergency days off once the kid is older. Just saying "one day I'd like to start a family" makes you a less attractive person for a position. So I would always imply that I don't want kids, I don't want a family, I don't even like kids and I am infertile.
It might be a cultural thing, but where I live, people usually don't talk about it at work until the pregnancy has been successfully confirmed, in order to avoid the uncomfortable talks that a potential unsuccessful pregnancy would result in.
The only ones who talk about trying are often the ones who have difficulties with it. They could be getting a baby through insemination or fertility treatment and need time off for that etc.
Grow up love, your dad shot a fucking red hot load into your mum and thats why you're here. 21st century ridiculousness. Very unpopular opinion have an upvote.
red hot
You should see a doctor...
Hahahahaha. I often imagine other people having sex. It's sometimes hilarious. Nobody can stop me.
Also some people get pregnant other ways. They could be referring to in vitro or related procedures. For those people it can be very difficult and expensive. Be more positive and supportive of other people's hopes and dreams, or at least be neutral.
This must be an American.
It’s a euphemism designed to avoid explicit detail. You should be thankful for the phrase.
Also, it’s one of the most natural things imaginable, maybe work on understanding your own sensitivity rather than bringing other people down for being human.
I agree, knowing other people have sex is absolutely fine, in fact I assume it as default for basically any adult in a relationship. Not using protection may be unwise in almost all cases, but trying for a baby with a partner is the main exception, and it's never been gross.
I understand that a lot of people have been raised with shame, and I feel a certain pity for them, but I'm not a fan of treating this shame as righteous.
Literally every human being around you exists because of sex. Imagine being creeped out by existing.
I'm disgusted for existing, but not because sex exists...
By OP's logic, you shouldn't be able to tell anyone you are pregnant or that you have children because that eludes to the fact that at one point you've had sex. Next HR is going to remove the bathrooms from the office, because it assumes that people are pissing somewhere.
You probably also shouldn't mention that you have a mother or a father because that forces OP to picture your parents doing the deed to make you. Same goes for siblings and grandparents.
Why are kids these days such prudes? How do you think you got here lol.
I am very happy to see, reading the responses, that this is indeed an unpopular opinion. You sound quite squeamish and prudish. The couple is already presumably having sex, why in the world does it bother you that they acknowledge (with a completely not graphic euphemistic comment) that they want a baby? It's not a sexual comment.
Upvoted for unpopularity.
I think it's a common opinion in childfree circles. anything to dunk on "natalists".
This is a truly US level of being uncomfortable with the basic fact of life.
"I'm going to the bathroom" is sexually graphic, and disgusting.
It means ejecting urine and or feces from the body and it finishes in the toilet.
It should not be tolerated at the workplace. I'm forced to listen to this rhetoric because my shift isn't done yet, and I can't leave without getting fired. I'm forced into a sexual discussion without consent, and it's so graphically disgusting that I feel nauseous.
The phrase "we're trying for a baby" communicates the intent to start a family without eliciting unwanted images of raw dog cream pies. That is why we use it. If you are having these thoughts about your coworkers from this phrase, I submit that you are the problem.
Bro, how do you think human life works? This is natural, sorry you are sensitive by very tame terminology. Perhaps you should talk to someone about why a necessary natural process causes you so much turmoil. I get that this is a workplace but is it too much to ask to allow for some personal freedom rather than sitting quietly working as a bot all day for your corporate overlords?
Based on the name of the community and the responses I’ve seen here, this is exactly the right place for this opinion.
I don't disagree, I was just offering some perspective.
Even the Victorian era thinks you might be a prude.
Fantastic unpopular opinion. Post is work of a scholar.
Yeah... OP is a clown but the post is actually proper for the community haha
Good job!
Honestly, you might need therapy. But definitely an unpopular opinion, I'll give you that.
No offense, but there is a point at which others aren't at fault and the behavior you're asking of them is ridiculous.
Ridiculous ... but certainly unpopular, take an upvote.
If I were to tell you that I have 3 kids, would you also be disgusted that I've had vaginal sex at least 3 times? Or is that somehow different?
Unpopular opinion for sure, but one built on immaturity and inability to reason as an adult.
If you were in an office and someone says that they are dropping loads in their wife, yea, that's fucked up and significantly different from saying that they're trying to have a child.
I'm so sorry to be the one to tell you this, but people are having sex all the time. I know it may be a shock, but the truth is stranger than fiction! In fact, and this is truly reprehensible, even animals are doing it. But no one should be allowed to reference it and we should all consider it gross. That makes sense.
It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.
Did you just find this out? Welcome to humanity. Every human being around you also farts, shits, and pisses too. That means if they excuse themselves to go to the bathroom that they very well may be creating a devastatingly disgusting mountain of shit covered in blood and bowel mucus that would humble Shrek himself. Does that mean someone excusing themselves to the bathroom is disgusting too?
You are focusing on .000000001% of what actually "trying for a baby" entails. It's not just the act of sex. It's the acceptance of two loving people that they are attempting to change their lives forever and be responsible for a child. It's letting other people know that a life change is coming and expect an emotional roller coaster. For YOU to focus on the sex aspect is actually kind of weird.