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Original question by @SourGrapez@piefed.social

I've been with a lady for two years and recently started dating her new boyfriend. We all consented to the relationship and so far, it's going good. I've also heard from some people though who used to date many people that it didn't work out so they decided to date monogamously.

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[–] weremacaque@sh.itjust.works 4 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

I hang out with a lot of poly people despite not dating anyone at the moment, and I know of a relationship where one partner is either doing that intentionally or on accident. They're the only monogamous person (and admitted to me they don't want to date someone who is poly but don't want to break up), and dating someone who has multiple serious partners that they've been with longer. I really can't see it going well if this person doesn't say something, even if it probably would lead to a breakup just due to being incompatible. I feel like it's not my place to warn their partner about it, so I'm just burdened by this information that I don't really want to know about.