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I have had more relationships after my marriage than before.
We kind of slipped into it. We always maintained an open relationship in terms of communication. With the arrival of our children we found it harder to pursue our kinkier side with each other so we decided to try it with other people.
My wife was first. She signed up with BDSM communities, went on dates and went to munches. Eventually I decided I wanted to try that as well. As my first test I signed up to the same site and messaged her without revealing myself. I convinced her to try a date with me with only one simple message. Rizzing the person you love feels good.
Anyways, going on dates with the knowledge and consent of your partner makes it so much easier than having to conceal them and making up lies. No idea how people do this.
Relationships we formed were similar to other relationships. Some worked, some didn't. Most ended amicably, some didn't. Of course we sought out people who seemed to be ok with the arrangement.
The pandemic mostly put an end to that and by now life doesn't leave us enough time or energy to go on. But we do not regret that time. Still keep lose contact with the people we met. Our own relationship is stronger than ever. And we'll see what the future holds.