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[–] mienshao@lemmy.world 34 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)
  1. A ten-year age gap is a huge red flag if one of the two is literally 20 yrs old. No offense to you, but as someone in their 30s, I cannot express just how much of a different place you’re in between 20 and 30. Straight up, 30 yr olds shouldn’t be snooping after 20 yr olds (and yes I know she’s technically 29, but the point def still stands).
  2. What she did would be considered sexual assault to many people, myself included. Lying about condom use flies in the face of consent. Not trying to pathologize, but I sincerely hope you’re okay. You mention wanting to kill yourself at one point. Based on everything you said, you should NOT be in a relationship with her toxic ass. Not trying to be cute, but you should consider talking to a therapist about what you had to go through. Cuz that’s a lot for anyone to handle.
  3. Fuck ICE
  4. Break up, move on, and good luck.
[–] Zeon@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I was never planning on calling ICE. I was asking because if she were to take me to court, I would tell her to take a DNA test (My friend told me she needs to have citizenship for that or else she can't collect). I'm sorry if this is a short response, I'm currently at work with limited time to respond. I kmow It's fucked up, I know, but I would never do that to her ever. Not at all my intention. I was really in love with her at first before she made that joke. I wrote her a 3 page letter, played guitar anf sang for her, etc. which had a part in her wanting to "stay" with me I believe. It was also my first time going all the way, so when she said that, I literally freaked out inside and didn't know what to do. This is also my first date ever.

EDIT: Just got out of work, I read the rest of your comment. Thank you for the support because it really did mess me up badly, I should probably go see a therapist. I was in complete stress for 3 months until that other coworker told me that he saw her down the street (she lives by work) and said she's not pregnant. This is from a coworker I trust.

[–] mienshao@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Edited my comment, I misread the citizenship part. That was entirely my fault, and I apologize to you for insinuating as that you’d involve ICE.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No one said you were planning on calling ICE.

It’s just something that gets said in general, because fuck ICE.

[–] Zeon@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Oh, okay, I understand.

Fuck ICE.