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[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

why do we normalize privacy violations like this?

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 2 points 18 hours ago

you must've been really privileged if you could tell your parents no like that

[–] HappyFrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

How is having a panic button a privacy violation?

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I mean, mom entering room while doing something sensitive is a privacy violation

[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 5 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Homeowners get to decide whether locks are allowed and whether knocking is mandatory.

How can those things be required and enforced (by whom?) without committing another kind of privacy violation? Do you want the government spying on whether an adult knocks on their kid's room before entering?

[–] HappyFrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

While I don't agree that children should be awarded the same privacy rights as adults, I think you're being disingenuous if you think that Catgirl is advocating that the government should be the one to enforce this right.

[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)
[–] HappyFrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 6 hours ago

Social pressure, like most social contracts we live under. The government doesn't enforce the fact that you shouldn't walk in on someone taking a shit, or that you shouldn't spit in someone's food.

[–] anothercatgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

no, I think parenting culture should shame parents who walk in on their children in ways that give children less privacy. it's already an enforceable law for foster care, a foster child's bedroom must not be the main passage way to get to a shared piece of the house:

  • the balcony must not be only accessible from the bedroom
  • a shared bathroom must not be only accessible from the bedroom
  • the foster child's bedroom must not be a primary route to access the laundry room or kitchen or other common area.

If a homeowner decides to not let a child lock their door, that bedroom becomes less suitable for raising a child due to insufficient privacy, and that house may no longer qualify as a foster home (I'm not a foster child but I looked into the laws regarding that).

[–] Redjard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 day ago

My mom knocked when my door was closed.