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Because it hurts to be accused of something unfairly, even if it's just an implication.
It will help if you try to make it a choice. In a way, this is something that will protect your child - the tiniest sliver of doubt could taint your child's relationship with their father. And that seed has already been planted
Even if they back down, I think you should insist on it.
Honest people don't tell you they're honest, they show. If you want, you could politely insist they read the test results themselves, to make sure there's absolutely no doubt that would taint their relationship with their grandchild
It would turn this around on them, it's the third path solution. They're going to try to brush over the unpleasantness when the results come in, if you make them linger on it for just a moment they'll feel shame without hurting the relationship
If you do that or not should probably depend on how supportive they are during the pregnancy, but I'd personally like having that option in my back pocket