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Sometimes you match while swiping absent-mindedly, and lose interest in a second look.
Sometimes you hit it off with someone else first.
Sometimes you just have so many matches that some of them fall through the cracks and get buried.
I'm going to guess that you do not have a lot of matches, so each one feels precious. But it's likely that your match has dozens, if not hundreds, of matches themselves.
Crafting a message that comes off as interesting without seeming desperate is a very delicate skill, and even if you nail it you can still get overlooked. That's life.
Dating apps are largely a numbers game. You've just got to tune your profile and try not to be too picky yourself. Most of your matches are going to go nowhere, and you can't let that bog you down.
Things sure have changed since I was on the apps...
I'm assuming OP is a man matching with women, and that's always been pretty typical for women.