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For the first question - well, first of all, don't spend too much time or effort writing this blurb. After all, you don't even know this person - why waste your time writing a deep dive thinkpiece? If they like but don't respond, I say something cheeky that explicitly opens the conversation.
For the second question: because people are lazy, or not really interested in dating apps in general but are just bored, or are bots, or a million other reasons. You'll never know, and it doesnt matter. Write a message, throw it away, move on to the next one. Again, you two don't know each other. You owe each other nothing.
You want to make some effort. I've had many replies where it's clear they didn't even read my damned post.
If you're interested enough to engage them, you should have found something interesting in their post to ask about in your blurb. And the prettier a woman is, the more sensitive to BS she'll be as shitloads of guys are only pinging her because of her pics. Write a real, human response that shows you paid attention to them as a person.
But you're right, don't work up a damned novel. Seems clingy if you're going that far for someone you've never even spoken to.