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that adults knew what they were doing, and knew the stuff they were so loudly talking about. Was I naive.
Even as a kid I knew the adults were full of shit. Like, "why are you bullshitting me? Do you think I'm dumb?"
Obviously kids weren't supposed to have critical thinking skills, and that was my problem, apparently. It sure got me into a lot of trouble...
I suspect that the louder a person talks, the more likely they are clueless about the topic.
Was also a big revelation to me that effectively arguing a point is a separate skill form actual knowledge and wisdom. The truth doesn't care what you do, know, think, or how you talk about it.
The sad thing is that people don't even argue points. I wish people who lacked knowledge and wisdom would argue. Instead, they just rebroadcast whatever propaganda they were fed most recently, untroubled by anything like critical thinking or introspection, and mostly unchallenged by their peers.
"Are you here for the 5 or 15 minutes argument?"
.montepython
I generally agree, but I just have pressing personal experiences where I prefer they don't argue. Aside from arguing not fitting well into a chilling context, there are friends who are in cults, or were brought up with the weirdest shit and lack critical thinking skills, or have mental health issues where it would crash their world, there isn't much point arguing. Nobody changes their minds and it's just stressful mental masturbation. Better to set boundaries, respect each other and argue or give resources if both parties are willing. Again, this is about a specific context and my experience; you folx do you :)
There's a Calvin and Hobbes strip about this. I think it's the run where their house was broken into and Hobbes was missing. Calvin came to the same realization and I remember it really sticking with me as a kid.
Two big realizations I came to embarrassingly late in my youth.
Adults are fallible and sometimes I know better.
I can change the world around me to suit my preference if I just make it known.
I listened to the same 5 CDs over and over for years because I never thought to ask my mom to take me to buy music.
I still have this internalised. I sort of assume that everyone around me knows what theyre doing and what theyre talking about.