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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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Look, if you’re the only one texting your so-called “friends” to check in, make plans, or just say what’s up, then let’s be real—they’re not actually your friends. Friendship is supposed to be a two-way street, but if you’re the only one driving, what’s even the point?

I’ve been there, where you feel like you’re always the one initiating every conversation. And it sucks. You start questioning if they even care or if they’re just keeping you around out of convenience. Spoiler alert: if they can’t be bothered to text you first every once in a while, they don’t.

People who actually value you will make an effort. They’ll check in, send a random meme, or even just say, “Hey, how’s life?” It doesn’t take much. But if you’re the only one holding the friendship together, maybe it’s time to let it go. Or keep these people at an arm's length.

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"Don't make someone a priority in your life if you're not even an option in theirs." Some pretty good advice I heard from my wife a long time ago.

We're both kinda socially awkward, but we're just not gonna keep reaching out to someone who never reaches out to us. That's not a friend, that's a matter of convenience, and that's fine from time to time. I have a good friend I almost never speak to, but when I have something to say, he generally picks up and we talk, then go another couple years without speaking. I wouldn't call him a friend because we can go so long, but I'm not sure what else to call him. A brother? I mean, I don't really keep up with my family, either. (And he came to my wedding from pretty far away, so that matters.)