people are busy and have lives. I used to think like you in my early 20s, but then my life got supercomplicated years later and I became the person I loathed... I finally understood
this post was submitted on 08 Jan 2026
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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
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- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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Look man some people, like me, are just bad at staying in touch, and greatly appreciate friends that reach out every now and then.
It should be easier to tell if people dislike you by whether or not they agree to hang out or not.
If you feel a friend should be texting you back more, just go ahead and ask why they aren't.
If you feel a friend should be texting you back more, just go ahead and ask why they aren’t.
This one trick that resolves most shitty movie plots. Why does OP choose to live their live like one of those shitty movie plots?
Maybe it's because you're texting them the same sort of shit you post on Lemmy
"Hey, how's life?" "Oh, good, thanks for asking. Well, y'know, after dad died it's been difficult bu-" "omg shut up who cares he wasn't your ~~son~~ girlfriend."
Edit: I got the lore wrong lol
"Why do you care about your dad? He wasn't your girlfriend. Get over it"
Fuck, yes, it's bonking partners that are the only ones worth grieving for, obviously, not children. How could I get that so wrong? I have a lot to learn.
Can't imagine why none of OP's friends want to stay in touch.
"Look"
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Whats with the weird shower thoughts lately? They all been wayyyy out there. I thought these were supposed to be fun and clever.
"Don't make someone a priority in your life if you're not even an option in theirs." Some pretty good advice I heard from my wife a long time ago.
We're both kinda socially awkward, but we're just not gonna keep reaching out to someone who never reaches out to us. That's not a friend, that's a matter of convenience, and that's fine from time to time. I have a good friend I almost never speak to, but when I have something to say, he generally picks up and we talk, then go another couple years without speaking. I wouldn't call him a friend because we can go so long, but I'm not sure what else to call him. A brother? I mean, I don't really keep up with my family, either. (And he came to my wedding from pretty far away, so that matters.)