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Also, for the sake of maximising engagement - what mistakes did adults in-general make when interacting with you as a kid, that you avoid replicating today?

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[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 0 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I have already raised my kid. There were two things I was determined to do differently.

  1. BE THERE my self centered father was just never around.
  2. This really a refinement of item 1, supervise and monitor your kids life. People love to deride involved parents by calling them helicopter parents. If you are an adult, you did not get to spent time alone with my kid. The only adults allowed to do that were the teachers when at school. I did not trust any adult that wanted to spent time with other people’s kids.

A dad who was coaching the peewee soccer team, and his own kid was on it, ok. I am still watching you, but I get that.

Some adult whose kid is not on the team… hmmmmmm.

The daycare my kid went to had to have at least two people on duty at all times.

[–] Hacksaw@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

"the healthy thing I'm doing that my parents didn't do is that I assume every adult who wants to be part of my kids life is a pedophile"

Yes.... Very healthy attitude!... Good job I guess?

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip -1 points 1 week ago

Hey man do what you want with your kid..

[–] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This really a refinement of item 1, supervise and monitor your kids life. People love to deride involved parents by calling them helicopter parents. If you are an adult, you did not get to spent time alone with my kid. The only adults allowed to do that were the teachers when at school. I did not trust any adult that wanted to spent time with other people’s kids.

I totally agree. Being a "helicopter parent" is only bad at a certian age range (like, teenagers onwards) - I would have been very grateful for my parents to teach me how to play with other kids properly and stuff... Because I see other parents doing that for their kids all the time.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago

No man.. trust me the teenager years is when you need to be the most vigilant.