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Hello, woman here. I wouldn't chalk it first hand to child like features. As long as you don't have an elbow growing from your forehead, and as long as you bathe regularly you should be alright physically. You get a pass so to speak. By all means keep doing whatever you feel is the right thing to do about your looks, but don't put all the energy there.
I'd say it's more your attitude, since you mention being socially awkward. I speak as someone who faced similar woes to yours, with the aggravant of being told to be attractive.
If you keep to yourself most people will let you be and not bother you. Guys will hit on girls they can talk to and feel comfortable talking to.
My suggestion would be join a group or activity that you enjoy. Bonus points if it is a group activity, but don't let this restrict your options. This gives you access to people with similar interests, which already breaks down the ice, and also gives you something to talk about yourself if you meet people elsewhere. It's helpful when socializing if you have something other than work and study in your life, like a hobby or a passion.
Many people tell me that I look too young, it was difficult for me to find a job because of this, and I regularly encounter disrespect and distrust. Thanks for the advice though, maybe I'm exaggerating, sometimes I'm too exhausted to think straight.