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I can't give you any practical advice but I can tell you that I'm in a similar boat where I'm constantly assumed to be about 10-15 years younger than I am. Sounds like exactly what the stereotypical woman wants, right? It sucks ass.
Some years ago my (then bf and now) husband and I were in a bookshop to get some manga and they had a variety of promotional gifts they were handing out. He got a lighter. The salesperson then throws a look in my direction while already grabbing a thing for me, does a very short double-take, and hands me a cute fan with some generic manga motives on it, all the while slight confusion on her face. She clearly had thought I was his daughter and only had second thoughts after looking at me more closely. Probably didn't help that he had paid. He's all of 18 months older than me btw.
We still laugh about it. But really, it's annoying because people underestimate you and your life experience. I get told that I'm still so very young, I have time to figure out my shit, and I honestly never know how to react.
Btw, my husband and I met on the internet. Not a dating thing but on a forum that we both happened to use.