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Long story short I have never been successful in dating in any shape or form and it's starting to really affect my everyday life. I have been in therapy for over 7 years (recently quit) to no avail. I am already on antidepressants which thankfully dampens my libido a bit but I now I want it all the way gone.

So anyway, should I tell my family about this? Nothing will really change if I do, but a part of me is telling they ought to know, you know? But I am not sure if I want to.

Edit: I have decided I am not going to tell them.

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[–] throwawaysalami@discuss.online 5 points 4 days ago (2 children)

What you’re really seeking in your heart of hearts is companionship, love, and romantic fulfillment.

No. No, I ain't. I'm aromantic. I don't feel like that towards other people. A relationship feels like a compromise to me. Always has been.

As for the drop in T and its effects. I'll discuss it with my psychiatrist, thanks for the info.

[–] Ashtear@piefed.social 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Seconding this on going without sex hormones, from first-hand experience: it's absolutely not a place for a depressive to be, to the point where I would consider a psychiatrist willing to okay it for a depressive patient to be dangerously ignorant, at best. I urge you to seek out a new mental health team for this and other reasons.

Also, I'm surprised no one's mentioned this: sex with friends is a thing. I've had just as much sex with friends in my life as I have in committed relationships. It just requires good communication and boundaries.

[–] throwawaysalami@discuss.online 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

sex with friends

If I could just have sex with my friends I wouldn't have considered chemical castration.

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Ok, then why not just hire an escort once in awhile when you're feeling like getting frisky? That will won't have the health effects of blocking T. Probably would be cheaper in the long run considering medical costs.

[–] throwawaysalami@discuss.online 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It's a pride thing. But who knows if the T blocking measures truly are that detrimental I might consider it.

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago

Understood. Try not to get too discouraged. I met my husband when we were both 27, and I was his first partner. You're not as doomed as you think.