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Long story short I have never been successful in dating in any shape or form and it's starting to really affect my everyday life. I have been in therapy for over 7 years (recently quit) to no avail. I am already on antidepressants which thankfully dampens my libido a bit but I now I want it all the way gone.

So anyway, should I tell my family about this? Nothing will really change if I do, but a part of me is telling they ought to know, you know? But I am not sure if I want to.

Edit: I have decided I am not going to tell them.

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[–] BaraCoded@literature.cafe 30 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Punishing yourself won't help you in any way. Talk about it with your therapist, and if your therapist was the one to bring chemical castration up, bitchslap their f*cking face to the ground, because they are not a therapist. Change IS NOT about punishing yourself, change is about taking care of yourself. Punishing oneself achieves NOTHING.

[–] throwawaysalami@discuss.online 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I am not punishing myself, I am relieving myself.

[–] BaraCoded@literature.cafe 4 points 2 days ago

Or you're willing to guilt-trip your familly for your what-you're-chosing-to-see-as-a problem.

The real point being: a f*cking LOT of people are virgin/single until later than average, and particularly in your generation. You are living in a time when women are as much as men being driven to ambition and exploitation by career, leaving way less time for people to LIVE, in an economy were one single bread-earner can't provide for a family, so much that our generations don't want to make children as it is NOT AFFORDABLE. Let's not forget how ALIENATED our expectations are ever since the emergence of dating apps and social networks, as it has turned humans into products seeking value and/or valorisation. Not even talking about influencers, who litteraly are the incarnation of consumerism: making people feel bad about themselves so as to sell them something, anything, especially more shit to make people feel bad about themselves so they buy the next thing. Oh, and should we talk about how covid confinement had an impact on the socio-affective life of everybody? You're 26. You're living in late-stage capitalism and this late-stage cancerous era is eveything you've ever known. You've come in at the shittiest of times.

So, yeah, you can punish yourself and your family and take your black pill into suicide OR, you can pinpoint what are the most alienating elements to human society by asking yourself the right questions. Because it's you, man, but it's mostly you VS the alienating society we live in and how we hurt ourselves trying to please it, even though it actually is a giant slimy tumor. You are not alone, it's not only about you, it's also about the state of the world around us and what it makes of us all. 

Now put yourself in the perspective of the world we live in and then ask yourself what could be different, how to achieve it and who benefit most from things being as they are right now. You might discover some goodness toward yourself.

Else, if it's just a sex/bigottry problem, please do masturbate and stop listening to people saying that touching yourself is sin or that you are a better male when you don't JO. It's utter bullshit. If god had given you a mean to enjoy yourself only to punish you for doing it, then god is a sadist, a bully and an imbecile. People eat, people drink, people piss, people shit, people masturbate. It's called being human.

Else, if it's another problem, please do talk about it all with your therapist.