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Albeit I am in my 70ies now and married for >40 years, I sometimes think that I should have myself castrated when I was young. Sure, my path of life would have been very different after that, but it would also have spared me a lot of stress, grief and drama. Looking at my dogs that were all spayed/neutered - they had a happy life, haha. But you never know, what such a decision brings and how it changes your life and if you really want that.
Also, you're an adult. You decide if you inform your family. If you cannot take that decision by yourself, you may not be ready to take the other, bigger decision just yet.
When I was younger, my libido seemed to drive a lot of my decisions. I suspect I would have made much better choices if it had been turned down.
Oof. I prefer to think that OP is trying to think through the consequences and wants our advice. On the big decision as well as the smaller one.