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Is it bad to have a male best friend when you’re in a relationship? (lemmy.today)

submitted 3 days ago by violet08@lemmy.today to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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My male best friend and I have known each other since we were 12, and we both happen to be foreigners in the country we’re living in (I’m from Switzerland, and he’s from India). We’re super close and talk about anything and everything. My boyfriend doesn’t care about it, but he still says that my best friend is just “waiting for his turn with me.” However, he trusts me, and I’m happy, so it’s cool. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a best friend of the opposite gender. I also read a thread on another site about it, and opinions were mixed, so I’m curious what you think.

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[–] bitjunkie@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

There are a lot of people out there who would take the opportunity if it presented itself, but that doesn't mean they're not really your friend or that you need to worry about them trying anything while you're in a relationship. I'd say your boyfriend is right to be a little wary as long as he isn't trying to use this as a reason to be controlling (which it sounds like he's not).