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Have you ever broken up with a friend and cut them out of your life? How'd that go? (piefed.social)

submitted 2 months ago by Doug@piefed.social to c/casualconversation@piefed.social

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They say it’s harder to break up with friends than a romantic partner since the rules are a lot less cut-and-dry. This often results in people tolerating others’ company they otherwise wouldn’t be around because they can’t bring themselves to cut them loose.

I’ve only ever friend broken up with one other person who was going down a 4chan bigotry rabbit hole back in the day, and he’d constantly bring up problematic talking points that I’d try to dismantle, but he was too dogmatic to have a conversation with so I had to stop being friends with him.

I check up on his online presence every now and again, but he’s only gotten more racist and sexist. Sometimes I wonder if having more pushback from me or someone outside whatever echo chamber he was in would’ve helped, but he just sapped my energy so much I couldn’t take it.

(trivia for older internet peeps; he was the Legorobot Comics author. If you ever saw his work you could probably tell he was gonna grow up to be a bigot)

Anyways, what’s your friend break up story? What was the last straw? What was the first straw? Any regrets?

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[–] jtrek@startrek.website 8 points 2 months ago

Had a college friend. Fun guy, but what started as "a little unreliable" when we lived on campus together turned into "massive flakey ghost" when we didn't. Drove me a little crazy. Eventually another friend said this guy doesn't respect me and I should stop wasting my time. I don't remember if there was a clean break but we haven't talked in years. I doubt he thinks about me at all, but he's a sort of archetype of one kind of asshole for me.

But I'm kind of insufferable myself, so there are probably a handful of people out there with stories about me. Welp. Nothing to do but try to do better.