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[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, and the person you replied to said that it doesn't happen there ... if something is absent it doesn't necessarily make it worse, it just means it's handled in a different way.

Like where I live - most people use feminine words for me simply because that's the toilet I use most of the time. If I wanted to correct them I could do so gently without making a big deal of it

[–] sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 8 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

They also complained that it was culture war crap so not sure anyone should trust that they’re coming from a place of honesty and respect on this topic.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Fair point, though I get annoyed sometimes by both sides of the US culture wars so I read it from that standpoint

[–] sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 2 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I simply don't view people's preference for pronouns as political.

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 hours ago

From my point of view (namely an enby from outside of the US) it does look like that ... mostly because it should be a non-issue, yet people who would prefer gender-neutral terms spend a lot of time fussing over it