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to a typical person failure is the best teacher. it shows you what you did wrong and you figure out why it didn't work.
there's a quote supposedly by Thomas Edison that's fitting for your question.
point is, you never truly fail as long as you learned something.
however, people with high anxiety may not feel the same way because they're too focused on results over experience. to them my best advice is this; get medicated. I say this as a medicated anxious person. if that's not possible for you, learning from your failures will take more effort.
it helped me to write my failures out, one sheet of paper only. discuss the points with myself as if I was talking to a person on the sheet of paper. discuss what I did wrong and next steps to resolve the problem. once I was done, I burned the paper. While burning it I envisioned all the failure burning with it along with all the stress and anxiety. this gave me control over the failure and the outcome of the failure and allowed me to take the next steps to resolve it as I had discussed on the paper.