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Recalibrate your thought process.
Life isn't a game even if too many people treat it as such. There are no winners or losers. Broad ideas of "success" and "failure" are social constructs, almost always tied to artificial things like money and status. You don't have to care about these things at all. You can simply unsubscribe from that ideology. All we need to do is live, and all we should want is to thrive.
When it comes to failing to meet personal goals, it's better to think of your progress and establish milestones.
Imagine a person learning to skateboard with a goal of doing a kickflip, how many times do you think that they will need to fail at the trick before successfully landing it the first time? Even after they land it once, what will their success ratio be for that trick over the next 6 months? Anyone who has tried skateboarding knows that it's hard, and that you have to be mentally and physically prepared to fall and maybe get hurt, because "failure" is just part of the learning process.