Unpopular Opinion
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1. NO POLITICS
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4. Shitposts and memes are allowed but...
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5. No trolling.
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6. Defend your opinion
This is a bit of a mix of rules 4 and 5 to help foster higher quality posts. You are expected to defend your unpopular opinion in the post body. We don't expect a whole manifesto (please, no manifestos), but you should at least provide some details as to why you hold the position you do.
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I think women, on average, already "know enough" to raise kids. IMO, it's more of a sociocultural problem stemming from consumerism, hedonism, extreme individualism and "prolonged adolescence", all in a cultural context that disregards the value of family and deeper human connections and sees childrearing as a burden that has to be scheduled around/after more important things like travelling and partying. This is also fueled by negative, often traumatic experiences in childhood, which will often kill one's hope in the future and one's perceived competence in successfully raising a family. It's hard to consider it a purely/mostly economic problem as significantly poorer societies and comparatively poorer immigrants in Western societies still have more children and at earlier ages.
I think you nailed most of the reasons, at least from my day to day observations.
I'd add they are afraid of responsibility, while at the same time they don't know how rewarding building a family can be. Education system could help with that.
It's a mixture of fear and immature dislike for it. To be an adult is to welcome responsibility, to take care of more than just yourself, and idk if that is concentrated more in women (I'd argue the opposite actually, the biological clock kinda pushes women at some point, successfully or not, to mentally grow up). 👍