this post was submitted on 11 May 2026
41 points (93.6% liked)

Ask Lemmy

39476 readers
2470 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, toxicity and dog-whistling are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


6) No US Politics.
Please don't post about current US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world or !askusa@discuss.online


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

I see marriage as a traditional legal binding that can alter your life significantly depending on your state and country.

You might see it differently. What does marriage mean to you?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] homologous@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 12 hours ago

Marriage means I've made it. Not like "my life is now complete," but more like a sign that I've accomplished the impossible. That I really can make my dreams come true, as cliché as that sounds.

I'm in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (well, fiancee now 😝). Several years passed before we finally got to meet in person. Having been stuck for so long, unable to do anything or make any decisions for myself, it felt unreal. Ever since we met in person, I realised that this is the person I want to spend my life with... The problem is, she lives in a different country. How were we supposed to take the next step when we're thousands of miles away from each other?

Well, the quickest way to a visa is through marriage. Considering the current political climate and that:

  • It's a queer relationship
  • I'm transgender
  • We're young
  • She's not white
  • She lives in a country most people haven't even heard of

... I was pretty much expecting this to be near impossible. But somehow, despite literally everything being against us, my petition for the visa got approved on the first submission???

Point is, for me, marriage is a means to achieving something I genuinely thought would never happen.