I don't know you. You might be a loser, but you probably aren'tish. However, not having 200+ guests at your wedding does not mean you are a loser. Having only a handful of guests at your wedding does not mean you are a loser.

Usually there's an element of one or both parties getting married have a familial tradition, culture, and/or history of large marriages as well. Often at least one of the people getting married comes from a large family, but not uncommon for both. Also, one or both sides tends to have money and/or generational wealth. Having that kind of money means you can afford a big wedding with 200+ people, but also generational wealth tends to give people and families the luxury of attaining and maintaining long term & multi-generational ties as well as a sense of duty to one another.

But also, it might be easier to to have 200+ people come to your wedding than you realize, depending on circumstances. Like if you and your future spouse come from large / larger families, don't have tons of mutual friends/acquaintances, and things like that, and you invite pretty much every relative, acquaintance, friend, coworker, neighbor and so on, you'll probably get more folks in attendance than you might expect. Particularly if you give them long enough notice that they can plan for it and you've picked a good location as well as time of year to make it happen. Also wouldn't hurt to provide support for accommodations, food, travel for those who might struggle to afford them.