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Any Other Guys wish they were short/shorter (programming.dev)

submitted 21 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) by cactus_head@programming.dev to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that's a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn't feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that's too small.

But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.

Anyone else relates to this.

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[–] A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

so I end up getting a regular 3x so the shirt reaches down to my waist.

the problem with that in my experiences is that most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer. I've had times looking at shirts in the store where the there was like an inch of difference in length between large and 3x large, but the width difference was astronomical.

JCPenny seems to be dying out, but their online always seemed to have a good collection of tall and big clothes if you're looking for stores.

So, if you’re miserable being tall, take some consolation from the knowledge that it won’t last long.

Not soon enough

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

most companies just make the shirts wider, as opposed to longer

No doubt. I've got a bunch of 3XL shirts that are at least 10 inches wider than I need them to be to get 1-2 inches of extra length.

I think there's also an assumption that if you're tall it's because your legs (and arms) are long, like a giraffe. I'm not built like that. I'm just big.

[–] A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

Yeah, makes finding clothes super hard.

and then you wear it forever when you do, and refuse to give it up, even when its falling apart, because you literally have never found another shirt that fits like it.