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The answer to your question is very situational. Is this someone you just met, are you currently friend-zoned, is this someone you've already been officially dating for a while?
In other words, what stage are you at in this relationship?
This sounds like a situation where you're currently friend-zoned, so I'll answer with that assumption.
You're going to get a lot of opinions on this kind of question, one way or another, and some of this will just depend on what part of the world you live in. In my opinion, the best way out of the friend-zone is to just be direct and ask them out on an official date. This lets them know that you really are interested in them without putting too much pressure on them. At that point, it's on them to figure out how to respond.
If they are interested, they'll respond positively. If they aren't, they'll either say no, come up with excuses, or back out last minute. If they cancel on you, do they really sound like they sincerely want to go on a date with you? If you're not sure, give them another chance, but if you find that they consistently cancel on you, then it's time to move on/just keep them as a friend.
We have each other approval. No we don't date, same social group.
I don't care if I get friend zoned or whatever. I'd be more worried about them hating me or thinking I was weird