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Just toying with the idea here. I am thinking about proposing in the next year and I never expected I would be in this position.

My sister was just proposed to and dude must have spent like 10 grand on the ring. I think she feels like he spent too much. It looks like the friggin thing weighs her whole hand down.

Also do you think it is misogynist to ask the lady's dad for permission?

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[–] Vanth@reddthat.com -4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I really hope this isn't with the woman who alleged you raped her. I think you would bother be better off forgetting the other even exists.

User tags exist. My tag for you is getting quite the few descriptors tacked on.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Hell no it isn't lol. Fuck that person and hope they have a shit life

Congrats on your tags. Were you one of the ones in my thread calling me a rapist?

Do you have me tagged as "regarded"? Why would i propose to someone that falsely accused me of raping them?

I found someone who treats me like a human. I am getting older and proposing seems like the right thing to do in the near future.

Honestly go fuck yourself. In real life are you also this little dark cloud that floats around?

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Nope, I was one specifically not calling you a rapist. You go from head over heels with this ex to facing rape allegations and loss of all friends to being ready to propose in a matter of a month.

This is me as brutally candid internet stranger who doesn't care about being your friend - you might want to slow down a tick and get some therapy before you charge into another frantic, unstable, even dangerous relationship. Jumping out of an abusive relationship and immediately into a new relationship is one of the worst things to do, giving yourself no time to heal and get your head on right.

I'll block you now if you prefer. It bums me out to see a fellow human fight so hard for shit relationships.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 1 points 23 hours ago

It doesn't bum you out whatsoever. Youre one of those sick fucks that gets off on making others feel bad.