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[–] IzzyScissor@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I remember reading that when national parks tried to make a 'bear-proof' trashcan, they found that there was a larger overlap between the smartest bear and the stupidest human to make a viable product.

I feel like it's a similar situation here. The smartest kid and the stupidest adult are far more similar than we'd like to admit.

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[–] communism@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't think there is a "dead giveaway". Plenty of kids can pass as adults online and plenty of adults seem like kids online. And sometimes with stuff like word usage/grammar/etc you can't tell if it's a child or someone who doesn't speak English very well or maybe an English-speaking adult who happens to type like that. There's a lot of different people in the world.

[–] Badabinski@kbin.earth 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I imagine that part of it comes down to motivation. I pretended to be an adult on a special-interest forum when I was twelve years old because I needed an escape from my miserable existence. At that time, I had no control over my life and every morning I woke up meant I had a new chance for traumatic shit to happen. I desperately needed to be someone else, so I took my time, researched shit, and avoided any conversation where I might be outed. I'm sure I didn't fool everyone, but I got some shocked responses when I went back as an adult and owned up to it.

Kids doing it for the authority boost or just as a childish fancy will be easier to spot. Kids doing it as a coping mechanism for their horrible lives will probably blend in a lot better.

[–] Lofenyy@sh.itjust.works 1 points 7 months ago

Damn. I know this life. I don't wish it on anyone, except those who exposed me to it...

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Very confidently wrong, poor reading comprehension, poor grammar, limited vocabulary, emoji gore, catch phrase/pop culture quotes/talking points repeated with no comprehension of what they're saying, clearly not aware of how many things in life work, religious regurgitation while being surprised everyone doesn't agree with them. Very easily impressed with basic factual statements, clearly thinking confidence is the main thing that makes someone correct. Thinks their mom telling they they are handsome is a valid point. Idk, that's all I got.

[–] solarvector@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 year ago

Huh

Hexbear is an 8/10 on this scale

[–] Tetragrade@leminal.space 1 points 4 months ago

I think you're handsome too, reader. Don't listen to the haters.

[–] ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Extreme/insane positions on everything. Not just one or two insane positions, not just political extremism; when I say everything I mean EVERYTHING. No nuance allowed. And it has to be fully sincere, otherwise you are dealing with a Jreg.

There are milder versions of this, but I have rarely met a child that didn't have a strongly held insane belief formed from their limited experiences. My favorite was a kid who told me that eating pasta supports fascism because it comes from Italy, so loving Italian products means you support Mussolini. Pizza is fine, though, because that's American.

I'll bite. What's a Jreg?

[–] SturgiesYrFase@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Uuuuuugh. I remember being so black and white, there wasn't any middle ground on anything. It was exhausting.

I'm just glad I decided to go full moral relativism right away back then. It was a good way to speedrun maturity, although I did maintain some kooky beliefs into early adulthood such as

  • "if you are not multilingual you can't be a good person, and the more languages you speak the better of a person you are"
  • "The Democratic party is a puppet of the Republican party, and in reality the U.S. is only pretending to be a two-party state"
  • "The age of consent should be 25."
  • "Evil people can be good functioning members of society, so we shouldn't discriminate against people who hold evil beliefs as long as they are nice to others."

It was exhausting. Opposite reason from you, there was only middle ground, no black and white allowed. But it came from the same mental place. Pride, arrogance, nievetΓ©.

[–] Tixanou@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I aint reading allatπŸ’€πŸ’€πŸ’€πŸ’€πŸ’€πŸ’€πŸ’€

Like if gay is bad and u a sigma (YT shorts raised me)
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[–] AlexWIWA@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Nice yap sesh

Nice try little Timmy, but I won't be telling you how to pass as an adult.

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

When they're adamant that voting third party in the United States will be useful in some capacity, I assume they're 13

[–] mlg@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm actually gonna give the benefit of the doubt and assume this is actually a grown idiot lol

[–] trafficnab@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I still stand by full disk encryption accomplishing almost nothing for the average user but separating them from their own files

If you don't have data on your PC that someone might be willing to kill you for, you probably don't need it, and Microsoft enabling it by default for Win11 installs is crazy

[–] lemmyhavesome@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Sounds like the whole hard drive recovery industry is about to go poof.

[–] EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, I think it's a good idea to enable it on a laptop.

I mean if someone steals your laptop they can access all your files without it, and even though 90% of files may be useless there's always chances to find passwords (often reused, even if encrypted can be decrypted if they aren't strong), bank details, documents, etc oh and cookies for your browser sessions etc etc. If I were a laptop thief (which I'm not) I'd probably look for those too before formatting everything, that could be extra money.

That's why I encrypt my laptop's drive. That way even if it's stolen the only thing I have to really worry about is not having a laptop anymore.

[–] trafficnab@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah but I don't think the average smash and grab thief is going to be smart enough to recognize the potential value of the data on the laptop, they're just going to pawn the thing off as quickly as possible

Anyone smart enough to want the data probably doesn't need to smash a window, they'll just access the data remotely when the computer is on and the drive is unencrypted

So even then, it only protects you from the very narrow overlap of thieves who are dumb enough to need to break into cars for a living, but smart enough to harvest data off of stolen laptops

[–] neidu2@feddit.nl 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm inclined to somewhat agree. As someone who enjoyed snooping around a mostly unencrypted and insecure internet 25 years ago, I can wholeheartedly tell you that most people's files are pretty boring.

Corporate computers on the other hand...

[–] grandkaiser@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Hackers mad

Hackers mad

Hackers mad

[–] CileTheSane@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

When they start calling people "jr" or implying anyone who disagrees with them is too young to understand.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Yup, I immediately assume these people are children, because it likely comes from their own experiences being dismissed due to their age.

[–] psivchaz@reddthat.com 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Generally when people bring up some personal detail, my immediate reaction is to assume the opposite. Especially if it begins with "as a." For example: "as a woman," this person is a man. "As a black person," this is the whitest person you will ever meet. "As a 60 year old," definitely ten.

[–] troglodytis@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

As a late 40s white man, I agree

[–] EuroNutellaMan@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

As a poor person who isn't the president of the US and doesn't have access to nuclear launch codes, I agree

[–] hitmyspot@aussie.zone 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Username with a year that tracks as a kid.

[–] datavoid@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago
[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

slang mostly, I mod a strictly 18+ space and recently someone used the word "skeet", and would you believe it, they were a minor

[–] chetradley@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Skeet? Really? Lil Jon's "Get Low" came out 22 years ago.

Now if they had said "Skibidi" that would be a different story.

Tbh, no. I expected they would be about 32 using the word "skeet." I'd expect the youth of today to say "cummies" or some other abject disgrace of a word lol.

[–] oxjox@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago (3 children)

When someone asks what’s a dead give away someone is a kid, it tells me they’re not old enough to remember the ASL days.

[–] Gnugit@aussie.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Natanael@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Gnugit@aussie.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Hot. PM sent.

Your definition for kid is out of date.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I wrote a whole goddamn novel-sized autorespond in Polaris that triggered on an asl. I was a 96 year old tibetan yak farmer who was allergic to wool and hated the local monks. I used to pee in their milk until one day the abbot found out and beat me with his hat.

Either that or it started screaming about asexual lizards

[–] NoiseColor@startrek.website 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't really know, but when they have weird illogical views that they defend with trump like arguments, I think they are kids. They might not be 10.

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Some people's bodies continue to grow well after their brain stopped developing.

[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes, but it's a little worse than that. One might take that to mean environmental, congenital, or even genetic factors. But there's more. Consider the role that trauma has to play here as it can directly cause arrested psychological development:

https://psychcentral.com/ptsd/signs-trauma-has-you-stuck

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That was really interesting. I had a friend who's brother killed himself when he was a young teen. If things didn't go his way or he was overly irritated, especially when he was drunk, he reacted by destroying things like a pubescent boy might. He also came from a wealthy family so I always thought that contributed as well, like not caring if he breaks something just buy a new one. But he didn't just break his own things. I had to end the friendship when he drunkenly threatened a woman who lived in my building with a gun. I hope he's ok.

Sorry to hear about your friend. While I'm no doctor, that seems to fit the bill to me. I've known people that had other trauma when young, and yeah, maintaining healthy relationships seems to be the hardest thing for them. Your story reminded me of a lot.

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