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[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 31 minutes ago

Well, I was afraid that I could do nothing to quell a home invasion, which not only was my area having an uptick in but my best friend's house (and the friend) fell victim to, pistol whipped him and everything we had to glue his scalp back together.

Then I bought a gun. I already knew how to use them because "Uncle," so I didn't have to learn how, which was a plus, just had to learn the laws and practice technique. Now I'm not so scared of home invasions, I can defend myself against them, and I've since moved out of the hood which was another huge bonus, but they still happen here too.

Luckily so far the only time I ever did have to use it I was in a walmart parking lot, not home, and the guy with a knife pointed at us turned and left when he saw me grab it, not a shot fired thank "Bob."

[–] Shotgun_Alice@lemmy.world 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Real answer, in college the apartment I was living in was broken into by a neighbor and attacked my roommate. When I heard noise coming from his room I went to go check on him and the attacker turned on me and started to attack me. My injuries were far less severe from my roommate’s. Ever since then I can’t fall asleep unless I check all the doors to make sure they are locked even if I know it’s locked I’ll double check it before laying down for the night. At times when I’m alone in the house I can still get to sleep but it’s a restless sleep because of how uneasy I feel about being alone in a house at night. That shit sucks to never feel fully safe in your own home.

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 hours ago

Ahhh shoot, I’m sorry you had to deal with that, you know maybe leaving a light on at night or buying something like a doorbell cam. Might help.

[–] son_named_bort@lemmy.world 6 points 10 hours ago

The Wet Bandits

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 31 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

me dying and my pets experiencing a slow and excruciating death by dehydration and starvation; meowing and barking the entire time for help while everyone ignores the nuisance until it finally stops for good.

i never setup automatic rent payments in the hopes that the eviction process will happen soon enough so at least it get someone's attention before they pass so terribly.

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 14 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

You know some people may call you crazy for that but in the grand scheme of things that is pretty smart what you do with the payments, and if that’s the thing that scares you and thats your way to get a piece of mind then good on you.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 5 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

i hear odd more often than crazy because my neurodivergence makes human relationships difficult but people will engage since i'm on the part of the spectrum that makes me seem outwardly "normal"; so my pets are my entire social circle and the most important thing in my life. it doesn't matter to me if people think me crazy for it because i know i literally will go crazy without my pets.

i'm also pretty sure that relying on this almost dystopian rental market to continue dystopifying is not a good idea given multitudes of caveats in each jurisdiction; but i'm equally sure that owning a home would guarantee the death sentence i described for my pets.

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 3 points 20 hours ago (12 children)

Not odd or crazy, but that being said do you have anyone you could contact regularly? If something bad was to happen and you didn’t contact them then that could trigger them to come round to check on you.

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[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

It's "peace of mind." Doesn't that make more sense?

[–] Franconian_Nomad@feddit.org 10 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I personally hate these fucking data collecting things, but have you thought about getting a smartwatch? It think it can inform medical services if something happens to you and if you have configured it that way.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 6 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

i hate them too, but i hadn't considered this and it's brilliant; thank you!

i'm not a fan of the data collection either; but the bigger reason why i haven't gotten one is because i'm a klutz that has accidentally destroyed every single dumb watch i've ever had while wearing it.

i know that they make rugged smartphones and i wonder now if they make rugged smart watches. i'm equally a klutz with smartphones, so i've had rugged phones before and I learned that they're usually a few generations behind their ordinary counterparts in terms of features/capabilities so i'll need to find one that's up to date enough and reliable enough (all of the rugged phones had quirks/shortcomings) to inform medical services.

i don't know where to start; but this is my new priority project.

[–] Franconian_Nomad@feddit.org 6 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Good question, unfortunately I’m not an expert and don’t use one.

But if you like a recommendation for a regular rugged watch: Try a G-Shock. Or try a dive watch from a reputable brand, they are built like tanks most of the time.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 4 points 19 hours ago
[–] MissJinx@lemmy.world 16 points 18 hours ago

Humans. The only thing I'm scared of in this life are other humans.

[–] tamal3@lemmy.world 3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I can't believe no one said the things under the bed, or the things looking in through the window. On the rare occasion that I'm home alone I still jump several feet to get into bed. Yes I'm too old for this but it's the truth.

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 1 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (1 children)

I bet you turn the lights off and take 3 steps at a time up the stairs to stop the shadow person from catching you. /s

Also someone looking in the window??

[–] tamal3@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago

I mean, there's not anyone outside the window. But the idea that something could be out there without my knowing? It's a feeling of not being secure and makes me jumpy.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 7 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Not that I’m actually scared to be alone, but my biggest concern is home invasion.

[–] dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Where the hell do you live? I live in a pretty large city, Manchester, and I’ve never been concerned with random attacks of violence.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 7 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

I guess I used the wrong term. Not "concern", rather "fear". The risk is relatively low in my neighborhood, it's just a fear I have as someone living in a SFH for the first time. I've lived in dense housing most of my life and I felt more "safe" being in close vicinity to other people.

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

That I will scream in my sleep and have nobody to wake me up, and it’ll be embarrassing at minimum and maybe get the cops called at worst.

The screaming part isn’t hypothetical, it happens pretty regularly.

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 5 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Bad nightmares Or is that just something that happens?

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

I assume it must be nightmares, but I usually don’t remember them when I’m woken up. I think it’s PTSD related, but who knows.

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.world 3 points 14 hours ago

I started screaming during my sleep after my mom died. It was a complicated relationship. As the years go by it happens less and less. Scared the shit out of my wife many times. I think I will remember one of the nightmares for the rest of my life. I usually enjoy scary dreams.

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 6 points 20 hours ago

Yeah I suppose nightmares can be like dreams once you wake up and eventually set your mind on something else you may forget what happened unless it was something that stuck with you.

And as far as PTSD if that’s something you have then that must be the cause for nightmares thus making you scream with out knowing.

[–] NakariLexfortaine@lemm.ee 5 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Hey, so, not a licensed professional, but deal with something just like that(screaming in sleep).

Go talk to a professional. Mine was PTSD-related night terrors, and once I got on Miratazapine with therapy, they actually went away. Been something I've dealt with since my early teens, and I've not had an episode in months.

[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 20 hours ago

Thanks for the medication info! I’ve been in therapy and currently have a psychiatrist but haven’t focused much on the screaming issue. I’ll bring it up in my next appointment to see if it would work well with my meds.

[–] actually@lemmy.world 10 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 5 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

I once had a medical emergency when home alone, I was making a sandwich and was cutting ham when the knife slipped and nearly cut the end of my finger off. Luckily I had my phone and was able to call for some help.

Best thing to do imo is have your phone nearby you when home alone.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 2 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

I know people here hate them but Google home/Alexa have emergency capabilities now too I believe. My mil was telling me about it

[–] ObsidianNebula@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 hours ago

Someone I knew fell down the stairs while home alone and couldn't get up. He was able to call out towards the kitchen and tell Alexa to call for help. If he wasn't able to do that, he would have been lying there much longer before anyone could find out. It sucks for privacy, but those types of devices do have some legitimate helpful uses.

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[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

I'm alone so infrequently I usually enjoy it. But I have anxiety so if I'm having a panic attack, all worries are on the table and mostly center around "but what if my husband or sister just never come back???"

[–] Franconian_Nomad@feddit.org 5 points 19 hours ago

Nothing. I like to be home alone.

But of course I like it even better if my partner is here with me.

[–] Pulptastic@midwest.social 2 points 16 hours ago

All the biking I’m not doing. If no one is home, my obligations are fewer so I should go for a bike ride.

[–] Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated@hexbear.net 4 points 19 hours ago (3 children)

I’m afraid that someone will break into my house. It’s a completely irrational fear but that knowledge has never helped me. I panic from each weird sound I hear when I’m alone while if someone else is in the house I don’t worry and just assume the sound comes from them. I barely have any expensive items so I’m mostly just scared of the possibility of a physical confrontation. I think I developed this fear from watching too many detective shows as a child.

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[–] Xavienth@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

That I'll get food lodged in my throat and my survival will be determined by how well I can thrust myself onto the back side of a chair before I pass out. A tough ask when you're short.

[–] Ste41th@lemmy.ml 2 points 19 hours ago

Well if shortness is the issue then try propping a chair against the wall so it’s tipped or tipping it in general so the top is closer to your stomach. Alternatively use the table.

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