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[–] CaptPretentious@lemmy.world 69 points 6 days ago (6 children)

So I've had multiple GF's who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters... so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?

So glad this didn't exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house... When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn't exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.

But all the "stories" on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right... Evidence was required... right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It's not like women have ever made false rape claims... right....

I'm not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through... but you can't just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn't fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that's selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.

[–] kieron115@startrek.website 13 points 6 days ago

People suck, hopefully you were able to take her to court for defamation because what she did is almost the definition of libel where I live (Maryland, US).

[–] lenz@lemmy.ml 10 points 6 days ago

To answer your question, there have been apps like this for men… but they keep getting taken down after users start posting revenge porn.

[–] theparadox@lemmy.world 11 points 6 days ago (2 children)

People who pretend to be victims upset me almost as much as people who victimize others (they are not equal, but it is still so fucked up). Victims have a rough enough time already being taken seriously. It doesn't take more than a few false positives to completely take the air out of legitimate accusations from victims. I wish there was some way to solve this problem.

[–] Kyuuketsuki@lemmy.ml 13 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I don't know why they upset you "almost as much" - people who pretend to be victims are in fact people that are victimizing others. "Other sides" notwithstanding, you said it yourself in so many words: they're also further victimizing actual victims.

I frankly find it more inexcusable.

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[–] kyub@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 6 days ago

Generally yes but it's not nearly always so clear cut that one is 100% the offender and the other one 0%. Which is why attention to details, context, sophistication, listening to both sides before coming to a conclusion, etc. Is so important. But guess what kind of things get lost when taking part in such a one-sided blame game on the semi-anonymous internet.

Apps like this but also social media more generally allow for one-sided public naming and shaming of Individuals who probably don't even know about it. It's problematic because it can be deeply unfair.

I get that there is also value in women protecting themselves against predators but more than likely most content within the app/service is probably one-sided public blaming and gossiping.

And as we all know from right-wing propaganda, being the first to make a bold claim public and generate headlines with it is very powerful and spreads the message far and wide, whether true or false, and many will just believe it's true without further investigation.

[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 days ago

I also have been attacked by an ex.

I can see both sides - if it's an app about suffering abuse, all should be welcome vs there aren't enough women-only spaces online and those that exist are frequently brigaded.

Both have reasonable arguments. Likely a compromise where a filter could be set where you can choose to opt your posts into the women-only feed.

However, my argument would be this app is bad and no one should be on it. Even if all the content is true, a gossip app that covers legally questionable things is likely not a sensible place to hang around.

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[–] scottrepreneur@lemmy.world 18 points 6 days ago

How did they not mention the 'hack' here?

[–] kieron115@startrek.website 21 points 6 days ago (1 children)

How is this not a stalking app?

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[–] joel_feila@lemmy.world 9 points 6 days ago

Finally i have a way to explain my feeling about this. This is just yelp for people. Yet another attempt to rate people. Didn't Candance owebs try to make something like this years ago but for reporting racists?

[–] roserose56@lemmy.ca 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

There is a video in the article, where a a woman says "are we dating the same guy?". Like women don't date multiple men.

Apart form that, things never say secret, soon or later will come out.

[–] Bloomcole@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

Is this what lemmy is about?

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