Is anyone else bothered by the grammar of the items in the list? Like what kind of sentence is this?
"... the world would consist of have dimmer lights & softer music."
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It fucks up my mind. I feel like it's written by an NT.
It annoys me to no end
I agree the world would be better with more autstic organisation.
How exactly can we make public transport less overwhelming though?
We (and adhd) should also be careful towards this line of thinking does not spinning out into a superiority complex. Presumably the neurotypicals aren’t being weird or dumb, there just born differently and prone to being stuck in a narrow mindset. (Irony intended)
Re public transport:
In Europe a few years back a piercing noise was added for closing doors (for trains, trams subs etc), supposedly helping some disabled.
However exactly this is torture for some people with sensory overload.
Changing this would help a lot.
Which just feels incredibly condescending actually, as someone that uses a wheelchair. It reminds me of when people talk louder to me because I'm using a mobility aid. Like, there are better (visual) indicators that could be used for hard-of-hearing folks, so I'm struggling to understand which disabled folks this benefits compared to traditional door closing auditory indicators. There's a Melbourne tram rolling stock that's similarly loud and shrill.
I assume it's for people with eyesight issues / blind. At least that's what I read about it when it was introduced. However even then I have severe doubts in that helping (I also had a legal blind colleague and know how he got around).
So I don't really think it helps any amount of people weighing against (statistically) possible 1% of Autists that might have more trouble with it.
And yes you're right it seems some kind of default reaction by people to raise the voice, also for instance when I don't (and can't, and I told them beforehand!) understand in busy environments.
Thanks for your answer and perspective! I always think of 'you' when a regular stop in my home city casually states that all elevators at that stop are broken (for at least weeks) so you'll just have to take the next stop (... And then??).
Most blind folks have "better" hearing than you or I though, that's what confuses me.
As for the elevators, where I am they mandate at least two lifts for every connection. It's funny because my train stop is quite busy, but only has two lifts as it has an island platform. However, a few stops away they have four elevators despite being way less trafficked, because it has two side platforms.
How exactly can we make public transport less overwhelming though?
Fewer people per sqm I busses and trains would help a lot.
That lessens the advantage of public transit over cars though
Yes it probably makes a small dent in the environmental benefit, but uncomfortable public transit is an even bigger disadvantage because then people take cars instead.
Hardly though, right? You would have to lower it to like maybe 4 people per carriage to match typical car usage. Besides, increasing the number of trains running during peak can solve this.
Lol, not even - more like 2, maybe 3 if you include the driver
Look, I was trying to be charitable :P
I dunno where you're from, but here (Germany) I couldn't imagine how that could be done. Haven't used public transport for 30yrs now but it already was horribly overcrowded back then. Nowadays population rose tremendously, cars got more expensive, and in the near future (20-40yrs tops) the poorer ones won't even be able to drive a car anymore at all.
Yet public transport remained practically untouched since then. How would these numbers fit into "less people per sqm"?
Higher frequency. So more trains/busses on the same route.
In rush hours I remember trams every 5mins, still looking like the famous Tokyo subway. And busses in an even higher frequency would clog the whole cities. Trams and trains OK, they got their own lane.
Which can drastically clog the network so nothing arrives on time.
Not sure which is worse, overcrowded or unpredictable schedule.
In defence of the argument. It is noteworthy how quickly we have a bunch of presumably autistic people brainstorming on how to solve the problem the second the problem is posed.
Same where I live in Scandinavia. Apart from massive investments in public transit, creating massive unused overhead capacity most of the time, I don't think it's possible. But I do take public transport to/from work and the worst thing, by far is sitting/standing shoulder-to-shoulder I absolutely hate it.
Trains actually running on time would be a nice second thing to fix, I don't think I have ever taken public transit on my commute that wasn't delayed.
Oh yes, I remember that crowdiness. I fucking hated it, made me really aggressive if people get too near me (would make a good swede HM? 😆). But I guess it's a European problem in general. Limited space, growing population, more need to get from a to b for more people...
Our local train-company (It's state run and only one) is known for being rarely on time. A running gag so to say.
The people who say everyone is a little Autistic are the ones who have been hanging around a bunch of Autistic people. They may be Autistic themselves.
Learning styles are a myth though, it basically just boils down to people learning more effectively when they're better able to pay attention.
This I've learned some time ago (I forgot when), but yeah, learning styles are just not a thing. That's just a deflection of one being able to pay attention because we're all visual, audio and touch-based learners at the same time. I think there's a video on it if I recall correctly, but I forgot the channel name.
It has been reported on by many different people.
I enjoy harsh, bright lighting. It makes my brain think, it's the middle of the day, so we need to be awake and doing things. 🙃
Same! So happy to see I’m not the only one. Blue light regulates our sleep cycle by inhibiting melatonin production. During the daytime, I need my bright lighting.
I am not autistic at all, but I'd like to point out that I haven't seen a tag on clothing in over a decade and wouldn't buy it if it had one.
What mythical world do you live in? O:
I definitely wouldn't say I haven't seen any, but I agree that they're way less common. It used to be 100% guaranteed, now I feel like they print right onto the fabric at least half the time 🤷♂️
Hey. Wanna see some shit?
But I worry that the stubs that would be left behind if I cut them off would be even scratchier.
Ugh. I guess I've been lucky. I mostly wear t shirts and jeans these days, which could be a factor. Nice nails btw :)
Nice nails btw :)
I'm yours 🤗🩷
Someone does your clothes shopping for you?
I'm a raver... Soft music and I don't exactly mix.
I imagine this is about music in public settings like restaurants and such.
Do 2000 people venues not count as public?
C'mon you know what they meant. Obviously its a public place, but its one you've actively chosen to go to, to experience loud music. Thats different from going to a store to buy pants and they are blasting music.
...no. Of course not. It's a venue for an event, presumably with ticketing, not a public park or something.
softer music
B-b-but… mah hardstyle
Softer music is also my one main disagree. I need my metal and my rap and my electro thumping.
I want my kick real loud and my beat real slow. Bass all the way up, don't turn that thing low.
Praised be the holy bassgod
I want full speed all the time, and loud enough that you can't really hear me trying to sing along. Don't really have the breath for a lot of the rap I attempt
Judging by my son you also forgot copious amounts of gore like everyone should enjoy videos of the top 10 face getting ripped off scenes in movies.
Also, cats.
Is Finland autistic paradise?
Every once in a while I hear about how grocery store clerks in the US are expected to have an actual conversation with customers, so at least we're good in that aspect.
What's stimming?
Excellent question! It's kinda similar to a tic, there's a quick read here
Thanks! I did all those thing so much but I don't any more, at least not excessively 😋. Self stimulation, it makes a lot of sense (for me) 🩷 !