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[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 10 points 6 hours ago

I'm so random. : raises spork into the air:

[–] TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 10 points 6 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 5 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

Is that Boxxy? That name just jumped out of the depths of some deeply buried memory...

[–] TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 2 points 6 hours ago

Yeah, 'It's Boxxy you see'

[–] Gloomy@mander.xyz 28 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Millennial here, bordering 40.

I just really don't give a shit how anybody dresses. You want to rock cat ears and anime related stuff? Cool. Painted nails as a guy? Nice one. Wanna wear a dress as a guy? Go for it. Wanna dress like my parents did in their youth? Sure thing. Dress in a way that places you outside of a clearly recognizable gender? Why the fuck not.

Do i get this stuff? Not really. It's mostly part of a world that i am very clearly not part of. And that's fine. I don't have to be in the loop here. Hell, i don't even have to like outfits somebody, that is not me, is wearing.

Wear whatever you like. As long as it makes you happy and you feel like yourself in it, i just don't give a fuck.

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

Based take. Do what makes you happy life is both too short to be upset about how someone else is living their life as well as not living as you want because someone will be upset

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

I'm 38. I don't understand this meme. Our style from the 90s and early 00s has come back now, so I totally get the esthetics.

[–] Echolynx@lemmy.zip 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

It is weird seeing bootcuts back in fashion...

[–] TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Not as weird as mullet and mustache combo from the 80s.

[–] mavu@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 hour ago

could really have done without that returning 🤢

[–] rizzothesmall@sh.itjust.works 4 points 9 hours ago

100% had that Gir shirt

[–] EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone 43 points 18 hours ago
[–] eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

This is now a femboy look.

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 50 minutes ago

always was, there's just more of us now

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org 11 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Boys also dressed in a similar vein back then, no? Pretty sure emo guys were similar.

[–] burt@programming.dev 1 points 1 hour ago

I was very much in that scene, so i can confirm, however was too fat and self conscious for the two sizes too small shirt.

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 10 hours ago

I saw a Gen z scenegirl/femboy couple on the bus last week lmao

[–] ianfraserkrillmaster@midwest.social 28 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

its ok i have a note from my doctor saying i'm allowed to dress like this

[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 hours ago

I have two pairs of prescription JNCOS thanks to Obama-Care!

[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I'M GONNA SING THE DOOM SONG NOW

[–] RedSnt@feddit.dk 7 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

What's great about this quote is how inclusive it is, it's literally in the first episode of Invader Zim (not counting the pilot).

[–] possumparty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 92 points 23 hours ago (19 children)

this is and always will better than brocolli head and white nike ankle socks

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[–] Jayjader@jlai.lu 18 points 17 hours ago

We walked so that gen z could run, what can I say?

[–] InvestBurnout@fedia.io 63 points 22 hours ago
[–] Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 92 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Its called fashion, look it up honey

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[–] ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com 53 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

Girls like this were so hot to me in 2008

[–] Rcklsabndn@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 hours ago

As an elder statesman, I am thankful that my city has a number of seasoned women that still pull off this look.

Half of them are insane, but that is to be expected.

[–] puppycat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 9 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Hexarei@beehaw.org 2 points 4 hours ago

This comment right here officer

[–] omgboom@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 23 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 32 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Who says this? Millennials and Gen-Z basically wear the same shit, at the tail end we’re separated by 0 years.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 hours ago

, at the tail end we’re separated by 0 years.

I'm pretty sure that's how every generational boundary works lol

[–] etherphon@midwest.social 6 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

That's really just a mish mosh of 80s and 90s styles as well; emo, goth, candy raver, club kid.

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